Have you never been to a party? (college type or non family)

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Only once when I was eight. It was the tenth birthday of a girl in my class (she must have been held back a year or something, because I was in the right grade for my age). I think she only invited me because I was the only person in the class that didn't make fun of her. I never understood why people made fun of her. They would say she smelled, but she didn't & they would say she picked her nose & I never saw her do that, either-- among other things. I didn't even want to go, since I never liked being around people & I didn't even know her, but my one & only friend was going with me, so that made me feel a little better about it. One of her family members picked me & my friend up, took us over there, & that was it. We were pretty much left to fend for ourselves after that. I never even saw the girl who invited me to the party. But I was terrified the whole time. There were TONS of kids & adults & music & noise & I think the adults were even drinking, which I still don't understand seeing as how it was a childs birthday party. I was terrified as soon as we got there & after my friend basically left me to go play with the other kids, I just stood there, in the room full of adults. Somehow, I guess one of the adults realized I wanted to go home & was afraid to be there & me & my friend were brought home within an hour after we got there. I felt bad because my friend had been having fun, but the entire situation was terrifying & overwhelming to me & I had to leave.

I would never even attempt to go to any kind of party as an adult because I know it would be even worse now than it was then.

I was invited to my best friend's birthday party in first grade but her parents didn't like me so they called my parents to come get me because I was "causing trouble". I can't remember anything I did wrong. Her parents hated me and encouraged her to stop being friends with me because I was a "bad influnce".

I was invited to my neighbor's "harvest festival" (their alternitve to Halloween beucase it is evil you know ) but I had trouble interacting with the other people because I had nothing in common with them and I wanted to talk about meerkats and my special intrests but they wanted to talk about Jesus.

I was also frequently invited to the birthday parties of our other neighbors sons until my mum dropped all contact with them because their mum dissed my mum for being Catholic and said we worship idols or something.

I've been to two real parties (parties like the kind on TV).
One was a girl's 16th birthday party in germany while I was there on a school exchange trip. The drinking age there is 16 so it was very similar to how one would imagine a 21st birthday party here. I was brought by my exchange partner, because she was friends with the girl. I was so incredibly awkward and just stood in a corner until some other americans from my class showed up and we all huddled together. Let me tell you, germans love their techno music.

The second was my first semester of college, me and a couple people living in my residence hall decided to walk to frat row and see if we could go to a frat party. We got in, and it was just an empty house (no furniture, etc) filled with bros and girls wearing spandex pants dancing like idiots and drinking beer that tasted like vomit. We all just left after a few minutes...

So, eh. I'm not a fan of "parties."
My friends and I throw parties, but our parties are just all of us together in one place hanging out in a preplanned event. No dancing, no strangers, nothing awkward.

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I usually avoid them at all costs. I'm too much of a wimp to get myself to go to those things. I can't get any conversations going with strangers, I'm boring and I hate anything unfamiliar. The only time I would ever go is if I went with someone else and I knew some people.

I've been to some birthday parties when I was a child.
But since then I hardly go to any, not parties you'd get with people of my age anyway with the drinking and dancing in clubs. I've had birthday teas with a few friends on mine and their birthdays.
Last proper party I went to was an old friend's 16th and that was fun, we had a disco.
I like disco parties because you can't really speak to people when there's music blaring so I can just dance and goof around without putting all the effort in with the other stuff.