aeon555 wrote:
agree with you totally b9. I think it's because a discussion forum is social by its very nature so it will be more likely to attract the more socialised/sociable/verbose types of aspie. I also agree that we have no way of telling just what a person's diagnosis is.
oh well. i just know that my observations are not of the flavor of the forum, and that is the way the cookie crumbles. i do not care much about it.
aeon555 wrote:
I think a lot depends on the extent to which an aspie has conformed to their culture and the people around them. I think some of us have kept ourselves 'purer' of the prevailing culture than others and as a result we just don't relate to the majority of aspies and wonder if they're even aspie, which in turn annoys these aspies no end. There's no real answer.
i can learn the rules, but being social is much more than knowing what you should do.
it is being natural and at home in expressing those things that are learned. i am not capable of instinctively feeling and expressing the things i learned that i should adopt into my character to express.
i just know what is acceptable to my requirements and i do not "feel" what i know i should "act" upon. facts are not the same as instincts. i would feel fake and stunted if i tried to play the part of a sociable person, because i have only a few ideas about what i should act like, and after i have exhausted those, i am back to having no real idea.
i can not be reciprocal in conversation with respect to the flavor of the attitude of whoever it is that i am talking to.
aeon555 wrote:
Don't think you're alone though. Just because a person doesn't cotton on to the intent of a thread is in no way indicative of a lack of intelligence
i am alone. and i do not think i am stupid. only other people think i am stupid and i know they are wrong and i am the only one who knows they are wrong, so i am alone.
i live in my mind, and i know that my mind is not insufficient to make me comfortable living here in my mind.
aeon555 wrote:
Stay true to yourself, that is the main thing and don't ever think your sentiments are inferior - I related far more to your post than most I've ever seen on here. People like us are either less common or not bothering to post on forums basically.
well that is very nice of you to say. i will never change no matter what advice i get, and no matter how events turn out due to my incomplete competency.
that may be seen as a flaw by many, but i am stuck in the bedrock of my set mind, and i do not fear that i will experience a landslide of doubt or insecurity.
