Are you talkative or quiet?

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In a couple job situations, one in particular, someone actually thought I was deaf! I've had it both ways honestly, one extreme or the other.

It depends on who I am around and if I know them. I decided a long time ago it's best if I keep a lid on my interests, that way its best for all concerned.

At work, I've learned not to get involved socially, again it caused me problems. I find I do get left out of a lot of stuff because of this stance but at the same time, I know its for the best.

I'm quiet around most people but talk a normal amount with friends and family.

I tend to be talkative, though I try not to talk too much. I found that whenever there are more than four women together, it would get hard to find common topics unless it's complaints about men. I can carry a conversation in most topics except in celebrity gossips, current TV shows, oh and farm machinery. I don't even try with those topics. Sometimes I try very hard to dig out people's inner thoughts, I'm sure I end up offending them. I always thought conversations without deep thoughts are boring and soulless. Imagine my shock when I found out that some people don't have deep thoughts.

My answer is pretty much the same as it was in 2012, except I'm talking to my mum a little more.

It depends. If I know you really well and we share similar interests I'm a chatterbox. If you want to talk: Beer, Classic rock music, License Plate Collecting, or Politics. I can talk for hours.

If I am around people I don't know and currently around many of my co-workers, it can be dead silence. I don't do this to be mean or stuck up, it's just I have no clue what to say. I can also feel nervous and weird, because I know it looks bad. Extended family, I have to be carful and make sure I'm not one extreme or the other.

It depends on the situation.

When around strangers or people whom are not close family members or a partner I can be very quiet and will often only speak when spoken too or asked a question.

When with someone I know well I can be a mixture of both depending on the situation. There are times I can be chatty and talk 10 to the dozen (ie when someone sets me off on a favourite topic or when I am excited about something) but there are also times when I can want to just sit quietly with the person (what I call the comfortable silence) and just enjoy their company instead.

It varies from one context to another.

I can also waffle a lot if I am ruminating on something, so much so that people have told me to change the subject please before I drive them mad going on about the same thing too much.

I am happy to do this as long as they don't shout at me!

(Please don't shout at me...)

Definitely talkative - too much so, according to many people I've encountered. And being an Aspie, I often miss cues that people want to disengage from the conversation.

My mum always reckonned I was innoculated with a gramophone needle and said that I should never kiss the Blarney Stone because I had the "gift o' the gab" already so who knows what horror would be unleashed.

A bipolar friend of mine said that I always seemed "somewhat manic".

A tendency to go off on lengthy tangents - noted by at least one teacher in my school reports - and a tendency to go on about things I'm interested in to the point that people get sick of it and outright tell me to shut up. Others have complained about my tendency to come up with lengthy anecdotes about pretty much anything anyone mentions.

And some salient notes from my assessment as sent by the clinician who assessed me for autism to my GP:

"...speech was loud and fast and very pedantic in detail." "...very comprehensive thought and detail, providing some unnecessary details..."

I'm aware of my loudness and do actively try to keep it in check but I forget to do so or my speaking gets away on me.