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Perhaps you missed the In-Depth Adult Discussion forum, then?
I am sorry for your loss, Willard, and agree that it is a depressing example of what can unfortunately happen when we are caught in the in-between and left without resources. A sad loss... I am curious, however, as to the field you both worked within?
M.
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My thanks to all the wonderful members here; I will miss the opportunity to continue to learn and work with you.
For those who seek an alternative, it is coming.
So long, and thanks for all the fish!
Willard, there have been several replies to your wonderful OP, both in my AWA blog and my Pre-Diagnosis Era Survivors Website set of forums.
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So-called white lies are like fake jewelry. Adorn yourself with them if you must, but expect to look cheap to a connoisseur.
"Yet, as I have discovered painfully throughout the process, for those of us who grew up with AS before its inclusion in the DSM, in the public consciousness we don't exist. Autism is a children's malady. Autistic adults are invisible."
Is there a way that we could become the change we seek? This issue is often on my mind. How could we elder AS types become visible? WrongPlanet has made giant steps for all AS. Could we go one step more? Or another way entirely?
I'll admit that this is easier for those of us who are so obviously odd that people assume something is up with them, and just don't have a name for it. It's probably harder to come out of the closet (so to speak) if people think you are simply a shy NT.
NTs aren't stupid and they aren't any more likely to be evil than we are. They're just scared of things they can't predict (something that should be familiar to any autistic out there). If autistic adults were familiar to them, they most likely would not be nearly as averse to including us, and eventually the next generation, in their society. When NTs have a realistic idea of what they can expect, they'll use their natural ability to connect with people, and things should get gradually better.
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Unfortunately, this is exactly what will never happen. NTs (and many, many Aspies too) will ALWAYS shun those who say the king is nude, who address the unsaid with words, who spoil the fragile harmony of the white-lie community, whether due to a """faulty""" brain that makes them oblivious to the "socially appropriate" or other; the reason doesn't matter to NTs. They'll always defend with their all their right to their status quo communities where the unpleasant and therefore unsaid remains unsaid and lurking beneath the surface, and why wouldn't they if it works for them. The best we can hope for is mutual tolerance where Aspies are shunned yet not destroyed by NTs in revenge, because NTs will know we can't act differently however much we try. A more compassionate shunning without the bullying. Hoping for inclusion is an illogical illusion, a waste of time. Especially in the workplace, but certainly not only.
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So-called white lies are like fake jewelry. Adorn yourself with them if you must, but expect to look cheap to a connoisseur.
Sorry to hear that Willard.
We have a friend of the family who's lost his job because of so many of the changes and lay offs. We've suspected for a long time that he had aspergers or at least something similar to it as he's great with computers but has trouble with adjusting and socializing with people. He's having a very hard time with his life right now and no one will hire him. We've told him if anything should happen he can live with us.
It's ashame the world isn't perfect and resources are so limited with this type of disorder as well as other stressers. You have my sympathy.
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I live as I choose or I will not live at all.
~Delores O’Riordan
MissConstrue, you guys are very compassionate, he's lucky to have you. It's friends like you that make the difference to Aspies. I had someone offer me the same when I was unemployed recently, and even though I'd never dare take her up on it, it made a world of a difference just to hear her offer.
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So-called white lies are like fake jewelry. Adorn yourself with them if you must, but expect to look cheap to a connoisseur.
(((((((((((Willard))))))))))))
My strongest condolences. Today's world can be a horrible place, and with the population growing and the global recession jobs can be really hard to find: especially in your field of expertise.
It's a shame that he felt so helpless he needed to end his life. I've been there and it's a horrible feeling. Desperation. Despair. All you can do is try and raise awareness...and never forget him. I don't know what I'm talking about - I bet I sound a right idiot.
Anyway, no, AS doesn't stop at 18. I'm only 15 but I think it's silly to say that when you reach 18 the problems stop. You have to find a job and cope with the world alone. I'm dreading it, sometimes I cry out of fear of the future.
Disability allowance over here in the UK is apparently good, I don't know how it is over in the US. I hope that's helping you. A bit of financial support can go a long way for anyone with a disability.
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