What is the aspie answer to this question?

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I found this question on the rdos Aspie Quiz:

I'm curious what the "Aspie" answer would be to such a question. I'm neurotypical, although I have a few personality features that could be considered 'aspie traits', and my answer to that question would be "Yes".

The reason I'm asking is that I'm confused, as that doesn't seem to relate to any of the symptoms in the diagnostic criteria.

i like a bit of a mixture as there are certain that i can talk to guys about and vice verse for girls.

I'd make the prediction that the answer to this question will be strongly (directly or inversely, not entirely sure) correlated with the actual gender answering the question. Why? Meh, I have my reasons...

Anyway, as to my answer to this question: No. I greatly prefer opposite-sex friendships, and I always have. I have the unfortunate experience of having almost exclusively same-sex friends right now, and this is, by far, the least enjoyable social period in my life.

I'd agree that it doesn't seem to relate to any of the diagnostic symptoms, but it does relate to a (questionable, in my opinion) hypothesis that I have heard before. I won't go into too much detail, since I don't really buy it, but it has to do with the predominance of masculine versus feminine personality traits in autism.

My answer would be yes. They are important to me but not to the extent that my happiness would depend on having them. As to why this question would be relevant, I'm not sure. Perhaps rdos will stop by and explain. He did that once before when we were having a discussion on the quiz.

I'm thinking, maybe it's because neanderthal women stayed together in a group, worked together, played together looked out for each other when the guys were out hunting for food. When my husband and his friends would go hunting, I and the other mates or spouses often used to get together and do something fun when the men were away. And then, when the men brought home the game, the women would help prepare it for the freezer. Just a wild guess.

I've never really had any same-sex friends; a few acquaintances here and there, sure, but they've kind of drifted out of my life. I really don't have anything in common with other women, save for physiology.

I would answer no. I don't care if someone is a man or a woman, just as long as we have something in common and are nice to me and treat me with respect, I am fine with whatever gender they are.

I think same sex friends are very important to me, I wish I had one.

I think that some of the questions on the Aspie Quiz - rather than being based directly on the diagnostic criteria - are based on the way people who have been diagnosed tend to respond.

That being said - I think there can be a lot of variation in the way people on the Spectrum feel about same-sex friends.

Personally, most of my close friendships have been with people of the opposite sex - and I rather prefer women as friends (never really been that good at forming friendships with other males.) I've had a few friends over the years who were guys - but the majority have not been.

Heck, PM rdos himself if you want. He kicks around here actively (as recently as today in fact).

The aspie quiz itself is an interesting study of a connection between autism, modern humans, and neanderthals.

My guess is that, if there were an Aspie trait answer, it would be no. rdos I'm sure has his theories, but my thought reasoning behind it is that someone a bit unusual compared with the rest of a gender group is going to feel more comfortable around people of the opposite gender than with the same gender. Generally speaking, that is.

Of course, that's not how rdos constructs his questions at all, as far as I can tell. He sees them more as innate traits as part of the species.

I've answered "no" to that question. I tend to relate better with those of the opposite sex.
As far as I can remember, this answer contributed to my aspie score.

It's kind of funny, but whenever I need to think of an answer to questions like this, I think of how I am when I'm drunk (since alcohol tends to simplify factors in my decision-making process). When I'm drunk, I've always found I tend to talk to girls much more than guys, so I guess that's my answer.

Everyone I spend time with is female (as am I) however I tend to share more interest with guys. I can spend time with either because most activities I take part in are gender neutral...

i'd answer no to this question. friends in general havent been a big part of my life anyway lol. though my best friend is a girl, i've always gotten along better with guys since we have more in common and i find them easier to talk to

No

I'd have to say no....while it would be nice to have a female friend...I naturally get along better with males...It is the rare female that I can actually click with..unfortunately...

As to whether or not this is the "aspie" answer....I'd have to speculate that it might be..