Have been invited to a night out

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a mate's 21st at a local pub, then clubbing etc.
not sure as to go or not (i have turned down other commitments/friends due to it)
have been through his(the guy who is 21) bebo comments - and he and another person(who i know from school but dont see eye to eye with) have been trying to get me out for "old times sake" - in specifics this other guy cites times where i have been picked on due to my ASD - mocked, ripped & decked in his own words, "fun times" he concludes.
while i get on with all these guys individually, get them into a group(with or without alcohol), and after an extended time, they turn into d***heads.

the reason for this "difference of opinion" if you like, is because im a bit different (besides the fact i have ASD / Semantic pragmatic disorder / Aspergers).
if you know what i mean. combination of the 2 = big problem.

unlike the last time (where after some boredom they reverted to bashing me etc), this will be in a public place.

still not sure whether to go or not.

just go itl be fun and or it wil be good for you.

Do not allow yourself to be abused. If you think it likely that this bashing will again occur, do not go. If you have your own means of transportation, you could always go and politely leave if the bashing starts - be courteous but don't turn back even if they promise to be nice.

Pub then clubbing? My idea of hell, particularly with a group that bashes you.

My thoughts exactly. I can't tell you whether to go along or not, but if you're feeling this uncomfortable with it that's not a good sign for how it may well turn out.

Just go and have a good time if they start cracking jokes on you make jokes about them.

I don't usually going out like that even with friends. I can only imagine going out with people who want to pick on you.

If you feel like going out, then why not? Just remember you can always leave if you feel like it. 'work' or 'headaches' is a great excuse.

From my expreience, try it. You might like it. I would recommend having your own transportation, though, so you do have an escape i fyou are getting overloaded. Last year, I went to Hamvention for a couple days with a friend, he drove, (picked up one of his other friends on the way) and the first night we were there, we went to an Irish Pub for dinner. The noise got so bad, all I could do was sit there rocking. I was wishing I had a way out. Trips to the restroom helped some, at least.

I'd be thinking about the getting bored and reverting to picking on you and also how one refered to picking on you as 'good times'.

Thing is, if you want to go, then go but if you don't want to go, don't. Just because you cancelled other things to go, this doesn't obligate you to go. If one of the people you cancelled on asks how did it go, (if you didn't go) you can say you couldn't go for some reason, or you could be honest with them depending on how close you are to them (the people you cancelled on).

It's up to you but ask yourself 'what will I get out of it?' A good time or being picked on all night?
Personally I'd try out the birthday party and avoid the clubbing. If I felt uncomfortable at the party I'd leave.