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04 Mar 2010, 7:24 pm

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Hala! That's wonderful! Good job! I was wondering about you today and am so happy it worked out. People are pretty good and I've found that classmates are more prone to root for one another than not. Look at you! You ought to do something nice for yourself. Congratulations! Now look, all of us scattered all over the world are proud of you :)

Thank you very much, Happymusic, you're so kind. :D I'm so relieved now that it's over. I've been dreading that for months. 8O

superboyian wrote:
Awesome to hear that your presentation went out great. :D

I get nervous with presentations and everything.... I actually had to attend at college to collect my certificates, however I ended up having to speak in front of a couple of people which I really find nerve wrecking but I try to think the opposite of nervous and try to be confident.

I ended up doing pretty well.


Thanks, it's good to hear that fear of public speaking is so common. When you're up there it feels like you're the only person in the world who finds it hard. I'm glad it worked out well for you too. :)


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05 Mar 2010, 4:02 pm

Good to hear that it went well. I sort of fell into public speaking (I know, odd for one who has Asperger's) and the #1 most important thing I did to help myself was to tie my shoes really tight. Odd, huh? but it give me just enough sensory input that I forget that the people I'm talking to failed to see that I told a joke.



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05 Mar 2010, 4:02 pm

I am glad you did well! I used to give briefings to strangers a few times a week for several years and it never got much easier. Once I had to accept an award in front of a few hundred people. I had a couple drinks first- I am sure that helped!



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05 Mar 2010, 8:19 pm

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I have to give an 8 minute presentation to my form group tomorrow. I am beyond terrified and am convinced that it's going to go horribly wrong. I find it hard enough just to talk to one person, never mind 20 people. I'm just know that I'm going to stutter, jumble up my words, mumble quietly and incoherently, flush bright red, shake and, quite possibly, burst into tears. When I'm talking in public my mend tends to go completely blank, so I will be heavily relying on my PowerPoint (and probably not looking at the audience at all because that would send me into blind panic).

I don't know what to do. I'm so scared and can't shake off a feeling of impending doom. :( I've been feeling so depressed lately and, however stupid this sounds, I think if this goes wrong it might send me 'over the edge'. I'm ridiculously sensitive about this sort of thing. :oops:

Does anyone have any tips on how to combat this paralysing fear of speaking in public?


Im glad your presentation went well. However on the offchance there are others that are now in the same predicament you were in possibly lurking in this thread for some peace of mind, The advice i was going to give you might be of help to another so ill post this anyways.

You have the stage, you have the power. When youre up there its not the real world anymore. You know everything about the subject at hand (id assume considering you had to compile 8 minutes of audible data). Having the stage means having power and its power you cant find anywhere else because its a living model of how people like us feel in the world anyways. Seperate from the rest, were used to that. The stage is a solitary place, find comfort in that. Also it helps to get into character. Pretend in your mind you are someone else you think would have no problem giving a presentation, carrying strong people in your thoughts inspires confidence, it certainly helped me.

The stage is a quiet, confined place that welcomes any recluse, being up there is like being sheltered in your home. You are untouchable.
I loved giving speeches, presentations and preformances because i kept this outlook on the action. Its all how you look at it, and its seriously SO much different then talking in real life. Seeing things this way helped me and it helped me to find an outlet for expression where my ticks and stims dissapeared. Remember its not the real world when youre up there talking to these people, theyre still stuck in the sharktank of reality and youre on the platform safe from the laws of man.



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05 Mar 2010, 8:26 pm

Hala wrote:
happymusic wrote:
Hala! That's wonderful! Good job! I was wondering about you today and am so happy it worked out. People are pretty good and I've found that classmates are more prone to root for one another than not. Look at you! You ought to do something nice for yourself. Congratulations! Now look, all of us scattered all over the world are proud of you :)

Thank you very much, Happymusic, you're so kind. :D I'm so relieved now that it's over. I've been dreading that for months. 8O

superboyian wrote:
Awesome to hear that your presentation went out great. :D

I get nervous with presentations and everything.... I actually had to attend at college to collect my certificates, however I ended up having to speak in front of a couple of people which I really find nerve wrecking but I try to think the opposite of nervous and try to be confident.

I ended up doing pretty well.


Thanks, it's good to hear that fear of public speaking is so common. When you're up there it feels like you're the only person in the world who finds it hard. I'm glad it worked out well for you too. :)


I totally agree with the fact it feels like we are only people, i definitely got what you was saying there.

This problem happens to everyone not just autists and aspies, ask any singers like alicia keys or usher and they would feel the same way too.

But also just remember, as I said before, opposite thinking does help you get through plans easily and successfully. :D

I guess that's a YAY for the both of us, I guess the best way is to celebrate... :king:


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07 Mar 2010, 10:31 pm

Well done :)



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07 Mar 2010, 11:16 pm

I remember when public speaking was my fear. Now I've been in Toastmasters for three years, and it took me a year to do my first 10 speeches.


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