keeping up your energy in public...

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Dealing with large groups of strangers is super demanding for me, especially in a high tension workplace environment. First there is getting over the increased heart rate and sweaty hands, then comes restlessness and figeting. Sooner than later I find myself depleted and my ability to participate on their level goes the way of Wiley Coyote. My skin gets super sensitive, i get headaches, vertigo, and worst of all loose focus. The end of the day and I'm just wiped out sometimes. You try to find some isolation but sometimes there isn't any, there is somebody else expects you to validate them. You try so hard to understand others and there is so little validation that I get out of the exchange that it doesn't seem worth it. Sometimes I give myself a quick face massage to rejuvinate me, I don't yawn in public anymore so other than that a little stretching and coffee is the extent of what I got in my body and mind repetoir. The coffee brings me back to the top there so what can you do.

I've become so pre-occupied with reading people that I find it hard to focus on technical aspects of conversations anymore...that used to be all the validation I ever needed buuut, it separates the men from the boys

hey.
im a little confused what you mean by "separates the men from the boys".

Please elaborate on that.

I can also relate to using up all your energy, me personally I have to keep on trying, and when I know i'm done, it's time to leave the event. Also yes i can relate to using up all your energy reading people's body language that your like, uhhh so how did i develop a relationship with this person or how did i practice social skills with them lol. I feel like im missing something myself when I read their body language

Partly its fear, but the other half is aspergers (having trouble holding conversation), its a real handicap. I just bought the book body language for dummies, so far I like it. In the future I hope that I will remember how to read body language and than get to the social aspect, which is the hardest part for me.

In that comment I mean, the people that are involved in the conversation and simultaneously have the clairvoyence to read and use body language are going to be more effective at communication/persuasion than those who try communicating using only words. Also, I would say that by definition a man is more concerned with emotions, feelings, and needs of the people around him than "boys" who are generally focussed on themselves

I'm flagging a little after 2-3 months of carefully-controlled socialising. I've kept the numbers pretty small, and I thought I knew the people reasonably well, though I'm starting to see that I still have a lot to learn about them.

I was doing fine for ages, but recently some of them have been getting into problems, and a lot of what's going on is getting very hard for me to fathom. And there are some conflicts between some of them, which always drains a lot of my energy. I keep wanting to take a long break from it all, but I also want to be a part of the solutions that these folks are going to have to find.....what kind of a friend just vanishes when you're in your greatest need of friends to help you through your crises?