Stoek wrote:
The relationship problems (and the things that go along with it) are obviously the hardest problem of aspergers, it's a joke to suggest otherwise.
<sarcasm>Because having a relationship clearly means it doesn't matter if I can eat or not, if I can leave my home or not, if I can pay my bills or not, or other things like that. I can just waste away, feeling trapped inside a room, melting down, not actually doing my self care, not actually eating, but it doesn't matter because I have a relationship, and that's the hardest problem of all! </sarcasm>
No, not at all. If you were so insistent on it being a joke to suggest otherwise, then I went ahead and replied sarcastically.
(For those who have trouble with sarcasm:
No, a relationship is not the hardest problem of Asperger's. What is "hardest" for people is dependent on the person.
Relationships are not a more important, more meaningful challenge, or a harder challenge than self care, than finding jobs (which most people with Asperger's don't get), or than simply going around in public normally. All of these are things that people with Asperger's have challenges with
Personally, I have problems with simply keeping myself fed (sensory issues + executive functioning issues), have no income, have no job, have been deemed unemployable by vocational rehab because of my disability (yet don't have disability payments), can't reasonably leave my home and go out to everywhere in public (and not because of anxiety), have meltdowns, have shutdowns, go nonverbal for periods of time...
All of those are harder challenges than a relationship. Far harder. I find "Being able to keep fed, keep myself from malnutritian" a rather central one.
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Everyone with aspergers has different problems, some that are unique to themselves, some that are more common.
11 Dec 2012, 1:11 pm
