Do you ever feel like no one ever understands your mind?

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I mean like because how some say our brains are wired differently. I just want to know if you ever feel like your mind is complicated for even you yourself to understand. I always have that problem because its like my mind will do things on its own without even warning me. At times, I end up ignoring my own boyfriend because of it too... which I hate. But I either get absorbed in something that I don't know what goes on around me.

My mind is much more complicated even than all that. I believe in things that other people find stupid or unrealistic. I don't mean religion or whatever wise. I mean things like paranormal, paranormal abilities, that sort of thing. I believe in those sort of things but lets not get into that. >_<

So anyway, I wonder, does anyone ever try to wonder what goes on your mind? And do you ever feel like even those you feel the most closest to can never understand you either? What about how you try to explain it to them?

I just want some insight since I don't want to feel like I'm the only that goes through this all of the time. I tend to let my mind wander alot and get distracted and all that. Its like once I start something, I either have to keeping doing it or give up and move onto something else.

Yep, there are all sorts of aspects of my mind that people don't understand. And I'm not so good at explaining in conversation. So I write a blog (http://aspectsofaspergers.wordpress.com/), where I try to explain in detail, in the hopes of helping people understand how the Asperger mind can work. Of course, everyone on the autistic spectrum is different, so what I write won't always apply to everyone with Aspergers, but often people with Aspergers post comments and say they can relate, so hopefully I'm explaining things that are quite common in Aspergers. It's always my hope that the more people with Aspergers write about their experience, then the more people will start to understand, and people will eventually stop seeing the autistic spectrum as a 'puzzle' and stop projecting their own NT explanations onto our behaviour.

I try to do things like that but most of my friends don't have autism. So its hard to even have that whole, "I know how you feel" sort of thing. I lose friends because they don't get me. I want people to understand but sometimes I just tell them its better to accept than to understand. It's so difficult because I have trouble with verbal expression but yet I can write it or type it. D:

I've tried blogging but not very many people really pay attention. I think its mostly because there aren't many people I know who have it or have LJ or whatever other blog site there is. I'm too painfully shy and socially-lacking to interact with most people so I often hide it too.

I don't really bother explaining anything to anyone. For some reason I just want to be judged according to normal people's standards, and I don't want to use my "difference" as a crutch of sorts. I'd rather drive people away the way I am than keep them around because they feel sorry for me (which is inevitable to happen when you tell someone you have autism and they happen to know nothing about it).

I feel like that, in the context that people don't understand my obsessions and special interests, and why I would want them, in the first place. I embrace these things, because they add this type of character to my personality, that the people around me haven't yet aquired to their own personalities, with their own interests.

Nobody truly understands what goes on inside my mind, but I don't expect them to because a lot of times I don't understand it either. And even if I do, I have a lot of trouble explaining it.

My mind is very weird, I can never understand my emotions. At least not right away.

I can relate to most of that - I feel that no one seems to "get" my thought processes. I've only told two people I have autism (Asperger's), pretty much the only two I've gotten close to in life, and they're so distant from my thoughts. Even not taking autism into the equation, they're not quite "open-minded" people. Add autism in there, and... I wonder how I'm even their friends - just how, because of the personality clash. They don't really understand why I think the way I do.

My mind wanders crazily, sometimes into paranormal-ish stuff, and other stuff like that. Often I catch myself, "Wait, why am I thinking about this again?" I wonder if it's because I have a lot of interest in fictional stuff, and I tend to stay on that. I get distracted easily, so working on a project, if it's difficult then I have so much trouble keeping my mind on it.

On the other hand, depression and anxiety tends to augment that mind-wandering, negatively, and it just gives me disturbed thoughts. Fun fun...

2 responses to the OP:
- I had the same problems at your age. There's good news: as you learn more about AS (or just get older), you'll naturally understand better what it is that is going on in your own mind. You'll realize why you obsess, hyper-focus, etc. Afterward, it will become easier to explain yourself to others. So, if you have the opportunity, I recommend you start cracking the books.
- If people still can't stand your obsessiveness over your special interests, I recommend seeing if you can focus on one of the elite/respected fields. Nobody challenges my single-minded focus on science, only my need to find balance. (Of course, this may not actually be possible, since most of us have no control over what peaks our interest.) If in doubt, start throwing out techno-babble and tales of how you're going to change the world, even if they're are really true.

i tend to hyperfocus on things and get stuck on them seemingly being unable to move on

Well, I never, WP is a community full of whinny existentialists. Jean-Paul Sartre would be proud.

Nope.

I do.