Being a shut in common?

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I'm 23. I'm awfully pretty. But for some reason, I hate doing things. I hate going outside my house.

I'm not agoraphobic. I just don't like going out of my house unless it's with my mother!! !

She's my best friend and she's safe, I'll give you that. I don't have to put on a facade around her. I don't mind going to appointments with my therapist, because she's paid to listen, and it's hard for people to turn down money.

Other than that, I don't go anywhere. I don't do anything. I shop online, sometimes I go to the mall, alone, and pick up something very specific, but never to just shop.

Is this common among Aspergers?! My gosh, I always denied it, but I really am just a shut in! I don't like talking with neighbors, I don't even try! My step-dad said, though not in a mean way, "You never leave the house!"

I feel like such a failure and coward! How can I fix this?! I don't like going places because they are exhausting and I feel the need to be at the center of attention, or I just feel left out. After all the emotional crap has hit, I can't focus at all!! !

First, is it common with AS?
Second, what can I do about it?

Please help

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Battle Angel Alita

I don't know if it's common with all Aspies, but you sure do seem to have a lot in common with me. I also hate going outside of the house with anyone other than my mother (even my father makes me anxious, since he seems to love to criticize me), and I also hardly ever venture outside of the house. For me, the issue of being confined to the house has to do with my severe social anxiety and the fact that I live in the middle of nowhere and I can't drive. (I tend to dissociate while I'm driving, which has made me almost get into more accidents than I care to think about.) Even if I did live in a big city, though, I still think I wouldn't want to go outside, since that would mean having to encounter other people and possibly have to talk to them. (Not to mention the fact that they'd inevitably judge me for acting as oddly as I do.)

So you can know that at least one other Aspie has the same issues you do.

You sound just like me. Do you have a dog or like them? They need to go out for exercise and it's fun, plus you'd be confident with a huge, intimidating dog with you. Maybe get a Doberman.

One persistent childhood memory is of my parents trying to get me go out and play. If it got really tense I'd ride my bike to my grandparents' house where I could be inside again.

In my teen years I felt more desire to roam, but had to suffer catcalls and guffaws because I walked and talked "funny," so I didn't chance it very often.

Eventually I got so I could carry out normal errands successfully. However, novel and unscripted encounters continued to be problematic, so socializing was pretty much out.

I still feel satisfaction and relief when I wrap up my day, go home and shut the door, secure in the knowledge that I won't have to open it again until the morning.

kinda hard for me to be shut in, what with the uncontrollable urges to roam and wander around and all.

I can be the same way, except I don't shut myself off inside. I just don't interact with people when I can avoid it. Maybe, you should try getting out for a specified time each day just out of habit. Who knows, you might find yourself into something you enjoy or meet somebody you can relate to.

I refuse to leave the house unless I can bring my pet lizard with me or else I can't function. I think I am agrophobic in a way but I don't care. When I need to go out, I can bring my lizard with me. I can always grow our food and get all her things online and breed her live food myself. I already get her hornworms and butterworms online and I can get all my painting stuff online as well and since all the art stores around here suck and don't have much variety, I'm considering doing that anway.

well counting my previous post, the only times I really shut myself in is if I get too absorbed with something.

I do go outside... as long as it isn't raining for 3 days nonstop like it has... and my primal urge to just go out and wander has been very irritating...