Not serious enough to have aspergers

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I think the stereotype is a logical and serious-minded individual. A cross between Spock and a bar-know-it-all who has little sense of humor or simply misses the joke as it flies overhead.

I am the opposite. I have a very difficult time taking anything too seriously. Arguments, deaths, break-ups, and personal failure all are examples were I feel like I have to put on an appropriate face for others. Someone will console me with a face full of tears and give me a big hug, and then it is like shouldn't I feel worse since it my loss and not theirs. I feel bad in my own way, but not the way I think people expect that I should. It does often take me longer to get over some loss and move on from it than most people for instance.

Similarly, when someone is asking for serious advice about their relationship with their S.O., a career problem or some other personal problem, I usually will have to stop myself from saying some wisecrack or just dismiss the importance of the problem. I don't know if my perspective puts less value on any one event, or if I don't have the maturity that I am supposed to have by this point. I can see it one day that I will be on my deathbed and some young doctor will give me the bad news and I will ask if he thinks if I have enough time left to finish the movie I am watching or something equally as dismissive. Is this aspergers or my own personal weirdness?

some days i'm more serious than others. but overall i have to say, that i never know when i wont be. its such a gamble!

I'm only serious when it suits me, or I feel someone else really needs or wants me to be.

I've never been compared to Mr Spock or anyone else in Star Trek! I have a problem with inappropriate laughter, so I know what you mean about not thought of as serious. I have had many giddy moments when the laughter just floods me and I cannot stop. People have asked me what was so funny. I've gotten in trouble for laughing when I shouldn't have.

I use to laugh all the time; a change of scene meant a more violent environment (more conservative, larger city) and that's when a lot of the disfunctional aspects of Aspergers came to the forefront. If I'm in the right environment then I'm naturally very mirthy, to the point where I think it's actually the NT's who are a little bit slow and a little uncreative.
If you have a creative and extroverted personality and you have Aspergers you're going to be a very very different person than someone who is rational or logical and introverted and has Aspergers. In fact creative with Aspergers you have a hard time convincing people that you have Aspergers (guess stereotypes have to be perpetuated somehow).
The capacity to know when to be serious and when to be frivolous has always evaded me, and I definitely think it's part of having the Aspergers. I have particular problems when I'm in overstimulating environments like University classes or workplaces: I've tended towards working in isolation (gardening, drafting) to avoid the highs and lows of working around people. This would be the Aspergers types you hear about who are very bright but do very poorly in formal study environments and get bad grades. People assumed I was too much of a larrakin (I'm Australian) and would get annoyed. Pretty hard to protest against bullying with that hanging over you. So I learnt to be angry instead; people take you more seriously but it takes a toll on your mental health if you're sensitive...

I was once told that I'm like T'Pol without the arrogance and negativity. I took it as a compliment.

In all seriousness, though (:lol:), I have found Aspies to be both very serious and very childlike in our lack of seriousness. We might philosophize on life and the universe or become absorbed in the patterns we see in society and elsewhere or be sticklers for rules, but might also not take very gravely "mundane," every-day things like people having relationship problems or may indulge in very non-serious activities like playing with Legos or coloring. I'm sure we're all different in this area; just because we all have Asperger's doesn't mean we all have the same personality. I know that the above suits me and one or two of my friends rather well.

I was told very recently that this is how I come across. "Wow, you're so surprising! You seem so serious but you're not."

yeah, I've been told I'm too serious, and also act like a kid, by the same person at different times.

I was never aware that the AS sterotype is eggheaded smarty pants.

I tend to be too serious. That's why I sometimes get upset when people joke with me because it feels like they aren't taking me seriously. My ex did that to me a lot.

But I also have a sense of humor and like to make people laugh. People don't always know I am joking. Maybe it's because I am too serious so they weren't expecting me to be funny.

I remember being in middle school and I was always laughing at what my teachers tell me and one day they had a talk with me and told me I don't take them seriously and then I get pissed when I see they are serious. I sometimes laugh at myself.