My father is trying to "cure" my aspergers

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Every time I make a social error, every time I can't work under pressure, every time I panic about something, he goes off on long winding rants on how I "will never be able to function" if I continue the way I am. The thing is I really dont notice these things, and its really upsetting because it feels as if I am making the same mistakes over and over again, for example:

Ill talk out of context, then ill get shouted at for it
Then the next day, without realizing it, I will do it again, then he'll get really angry with me.

He keeps saying that because im an intelligent person, I should be able to handle these things
but the problem is I simply cannot. I love my dad to bits, hes a really good person and I know he only means well what hes doing, but how do I convince him that he can't "force" me into being an NT?

Ive been reduced to tears many times due to what he is doing to me on a daily basis. Then he says that I keep doing it just because im lazy and I dont want to change; if I could act normal I would, but he doesn't get it

Flood him with information. The more technical and erudite the better. Blow his mind by expounding at length on Theory of Mind, executive functioning, face blindness, the theories on the purposes of stimming, sensory overload, etc etc.

He's smart. Make him use brain.

Tell him, with all due respect, to educate himself before he foolishly attempts to "educate" you.

He needs to do some research.

I think your father is really concerned about you and he is deperate since he appreciate that how weak we are socially. I believe we have a social mind of a 2-3 year old kid. What you can do is learn local language rules from this thread whose link you can find in my signatures and discuss them with your father as you will find them very strange and unbelievable as most aspies did here.
The other aspect to socializing is empathy or mind reading. I am going to post on that aspect. You may want to read that .

I had the same issues with my dad sometimes. Even though he gets annoyed with my AS qualties, he nonetheless understands and he told me on the phone once that I should not be ashamed of Aspergers. In his case, he wasn't trying to cure me, but he wanted me to learn how to cope with my problems and be able to learn independently as an healthy adult. I think that's also what your dad is trying to do as well. He was probably getting impatient. That's happens a lot.

My dad has never tried to cure me. In fact he accepts everything about me but he has said things to me like "You learn as you get older""You keep learning from experience" "Things will get better when you're out of school" "you just have to learn to deal with it" and I know he is right about all this stuff. Back in high school I wouldn't believe it and now I can see he is right.

Show him this thread/website, perhaps?

-Crow

This story sounds really familiar, except for the part about the dad being a good guy.

If he is anything like mine, he will strongly resist anything that does not fit his preconceived notion of what people should be like.

You should show him this post. Maybe he will clue in.

I've heard the "you're so smart you should be able to do x" so many times. It's getting annoying for me to explain why, being that it's hard for me to explain in the beginning why I can't do something.

If it's an option, see if you can get him to read Look Me In the Eye by John Elder Robison, it does a really good job of depicting a very intelligent person who regardless has extreme difficulties, and also how he learns to deal with them. I found it very helpful to have my family members read it, they've really seemed to relate to me better since.

My mom wants to fix me and doesn't know how.