Are You Jealous of Your Relatives?

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Do you get jealous of your relatives because they are more successful than you and that you have been unfairly treated?

I have some issues with that but mine stems from the fact that I was the youngest of a large family and my older siblings had a family around while they were kids but when they moved out, one by one, everyone seemed to pretty much forget that I existed and my mom even started to say "You don't care if we don't do that this year, do you?" when it came time for various holiday traditions, because there weren't enough people around for her to think it was worth the effort. No one sent so much as a note when I graduated, and about half of them came to my wedding reception. It gets tiresome to be considered a been-there-done-that sibling, everything done and worn out before I came along.

So yeah, I get jealous. I don't know that life was sunshine when they were younger, I probably got more peace. But at the time, I wanted company instead.

My relative are old. One collects real dogs, one's a giant, one has a dangerous habit of burning DVD's for profit. They all live in Queensland so no, I don't not envy them.

Yes. I'm jealous of one of my sisters because she is possibly getting a book published. I'm often told that I have a talent for writing, but I don't have the patience to sit down and write an entire book like she does. I also have a lot of difficulty coming up with a plot. Now I'm worried that if I ever do try to write a book, she will accuse me of trying to copy her.

It's hard to feel jealous of people whose lives are just as crappy as mine.

My neice? Yes. She lived with us for a few years while her mother ran about with strange men and partied. Sometimes she would take off with my neice at the drop of a hat and never return for over a year. She changed residencies like most people change clothes. My whole schedlue and routine was turned upside down when she moved in with us and my parents would yell at me when I complained. My neice was alllowed to follow me everywhere (I'm surprized I was allowed to use the bathroom privately) and when I complained about needing space they told me to go in my bedroom and stop being so selfish. My older brothers were allowed to go places without me tagging along and when I complained about not being able to go, I was told they needed their space.

My parents also told me quite frequently they needed breaks from my voice but my neice would jabber NONSTOP like a broken record about her imaginary friends and would drive me into sensory overload and when I explained as poliety as possible I couldn't hear myself think, my parents told me I was being selfish and that she was "just a little girl".

Eventualy when my neice would try to follow me and tag along, I would hurt her physicaly. My parents soon realised I really did need a break and sometimes couldn't get that break in my bedroom. I was bullied mercisellsy in school and never had any friends. I was told the bullying was my fault, even by my own parents. My neice had lots of friends and was only bulled on ocassion and NEVER told it was by any fault of her own. When her mom took her for her parrental visists, my parents were anxious the whole time because they feared her mother would run off with her and never bring her back. I secretly hoped she would run off and that my neice would get killed or something. I'm aware fo the fact that's a horrible thing to have tought but I can't change what I thought back then.

My mom says she thinks my older brother resents me because I needed so much attention as a child and that justifies him bullying me but my mom says she thinks it's terrible that I have grown up to resent my neice.

Nope. If I want what they have then I'll work to attain it for myself. honestly I feel lucky to be myself and not some of my really, really weird relatives. And not weird in a good way. No, i'm fine just being me.

i read a study that suggests that it is natural to compare yourself to peers and family so on some level it is very common for people to be jealous of people you know who you think are better off.

i would say i am a bit but i am also proud and happy for them. i would hate to see family or friends suffer

Hardly.

I doubt I would be even if I were not really the most all round successful.

I could wish for A's money or B's lack of responsibility, etc.

But I would never trade - I gotta be me.

i was somewhat envious of my rich aunt's filthy riches. but now i never think of her.

I'm not jealous of my relatives, some of who are very sucessful- I'm happy for them but I can't help but feel like I may not live up their achievements.

My dad is a PH.D holding reknown dentist, my uncle on my mom's side is now vice president of a Japanese company, another uncle is a successful computer programmer in Silicon valley and the rest have fairly stable jobs that provide financial security. I had one uncle though who I liked who didn't work for a number of years and sold stuff on ebay and the internet, then he got a job at the airport but quit soon after and now I don't know what he does. He seemed pretty happy with his life so I can't say anything bad about it.