Goal Setting?

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I am still trying to work all of this out, so please forgive me if this is a repost of a subject that has already been discussed...

Recently, someone asked me what was on my "Bucket List." When I told them nothing, they said, "You mean there isn't anything that you want to do before you die??" I said, "No, not really." This led to a conversation about goals and the future. During the conversation, I explained that I really don't have a plan for the future, and don't feel a need to create one. The person was so shocked by this, that I finally made up an explanation for it so that they would stop asking questions, and so I could feel like they were not thinking poorly of me.

Since this conversation, I've wondered if it is normal for individuals with Asperger's to not set goals for their lives, careers, etc. I think one of the biggest difficulties I've ever had is answering this question. Even in college, when I took essay tests, this seemed to be a very popular topic. I would often spend a great deal of time trying to figure out what my long term goals were, and finally end up just having to write something down.

As a person with AS, I have goals. The problem is reaching them. Procrastination, executive dysfunction problems, and fleeting special interests don't help.

There's loads of things I would really love to do and even more that I intend to do, but I always seem to end up getting involved with all the other stuff instead.

getting through the day at hand takes so much concentration, i dont have the time or motivation to think about tomorrow, let alone life goals.

i find that when i set goals, i get unrealistic, then get mad at myself for not meeting them. for me the best thing to do is set the bar incredibly low, thus slightly reducing my risk of disappointment.

In fact, after high school, my goal was to have my own apartment by my 19th birthday (6 months after graduation). I turned 24 today and i still live with mom. im friggin pathetic.

Goals=Disappointment%Failure

I have this goal to see how much money I can have saved by the very last day of June before Canada Day. That goal is to be able to seperate the things I want from the things I need and to only spend money on the things that I need like bills groceries and protective underpants. The other things like energy drinks, tea and coffee in the evenings and random things are things that I just won't spend my money on.

Goals are noble. as a species wth a capacity to think, its good to progress. however not everyone is given a fair chance so if a portion of the population doesnt live up to your expectations you shouldnt look down your nose at them

I think I was like this when I was younger, as in I don't know what to do when I grow up but after I decided to learn computing that was it. Course I'm trying to move away from that now.

What do you want to do for a career? Or are you very contented. I think this is unusual though, most people with aspergers want to achieve a lot even if they don't know what it is yet.