'People With Aspergers Don't Care About Being Bullied'

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18 Jan 2011, 11:18 pm

I think sometimes spending time 'off in your own little world' can be a coping mechanism. I know it was for me...Its ignorant of her to say people with aspergers don't care. Maybe we just don't show it in the same way I know regardless of how anyone thought being picked on and such was effecting me it really did do a lot of damage. I kind of suppressed my feelings a lot though and would either let my mind wander to something better or read books and get really absorbed in the story.



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18 Jan 2011, 11:23 pm

MrXxx wrote:
Also, the WORST possible place to learn ANYTHING about Autism is from anything produced in Hollywood.


True, but it doesn't mean we can't relate to a character.


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18 Jan 2011, 11:26 pm

I cared; I just didn't have the communication skills to let people know that I was bothered.
When someone has a large vocabulary and is very articulate when given the chance to prepare one's words, noone suspects communication difficulties.


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18 Jan 2011, 11:36 pm

Eventualy, you just get immune to bullies. Well at least I did with cyber bullies and with real life bullies I could always just punch them. There are bullies everywhere, even here on WP.


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19 Jan 2011, 1:33 am

Aspies didn't care about being bullied? What kind of ignorant comment is this?


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19 Jan 2011, 1:42 am

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The amount of bullying I received contributed directly to how much time I spent in my own world. I certainly cared, and even these days dismissiveness about the seriousness of bullying is directly upsetting to me.


This sums up my feelings.



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19 Jan 2011, 3:19 am

I was in my own world as a kid not because of bullying but when I was being bullied it hurt me a great deal. Here was a person or persons that hated me for no apparent reason. They didn't know me and I was confused because I never did anything to make them hate me.

I can't believe people can still be so ignorant. Even when she said it was something that boys only have and the fact she said she wanted to ring his neck. I hate when carers talk crap about the people they are trusted to take care of. I hear about it a lot.


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19 Jan 2011, 5:41 am

Silver_Meteor wrote:
Aspies didn't care about being bullied? What kind of ignorant comment is this?


Are you referring to the title of this thread, or the content of my post? I can't tell...



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19 Jan 2011, 11:40 am

ParadoxalParadigm wrote:
"Oh, you're fine. There's nothing wrong with you! Besides, people with Asperger's don't care about being bullied like you did! They're off in their own little world all the time. If you really had Asperger’s, you wouldn’t care about it!"


As someone with diagnosed Asperger's who was bullied, I beg to differ.

By the way, why do you write in such a small font? I had difficulty trying to read your post.



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19 Jan 2011, 2:52 pm

I still get bullied and i'm a adult. everytime i walk down the street someone always yells something at me, sometimes i have to look at myself to make shure im fully clothed because thats the only reason why i would think someone would yell anything at a pedestrian?


its awful :roll:


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19 Jan 2011, 3:10 pm

I could barely read after the first bit I was so mad.....I was bullied viciously early on. To this day it affects me, the most notable effect being that I don't have any sense of "escalation." As soon as someone seems to be trying to intimidate me into doing things their way I into absolute resist mode. I will identify what they want and make sure that they never get it, no matter what. This is the case whether it be at work or with friends or strangers and whether the confrontation is verbal or physical.

I cared a lot about being bullied but the first lesson I learned was that they WANTED to know that they were getting to me and I learned to never react to anything no matter how much they tried. It was the only thing I could think of because the adults in my life were missing some skills and never showed me a better way, such as standing up for myself, until later on.



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19 Jan 2011, 4:25 pm

Not sure I have 'social anxiety', definitely not as a disorder, but I am definately a LOT more anxious because of the bullying.
I had a conversation with my parents tonight about that kind of thing, bullying. When I was made fun of, pushed around etc in school, I always thought I deserved it because I 'asked' for it, not being normal etc, so I didn't take much notice of it. I didn't know I had Aspergers then and I just tried to ignore it, my fault, but I didn't know how to do anything about it. It wasn't horrific or terribly heavy or anything, it was regular and nasty and enough to bring me down. I thought it hadn't had any effect on me, but then why do I flinch when someone looks at me, why do I hate being touched now? That's not an Aspie thing, I've always craved physical contact, it's just the last couple of years I hate being touched. And to link to what you said, about us being in our own world- when you're repeatedly dragged out of it and beaten down, you can't help noticing and caring. It's much harder when you only get half of what's going on and everything else is just hitting you full in the face- sounds, colours, faces etc. You know what I mean, lol, this is an autism forum. So, I've definately got some long lasting stuff from those fab people at my old school, and it's because of my AS I was bullied and partly because of my AS that I cared so much.



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20 Jan 2011, 2:13 am

Who_Am_I wrote:
I cared; I just didn't have the communication skills to let people know that I was bothered.
When someone has a large vocabulary and is very articulate when given the chance to prepare one's words, noone suspects communication difficulties.


My problem exactly. The sting of bullying really takes years for it to feel for me. But by then it's too late to communicate it.