Verdandi wrote:
vileseagulls wrote:
Verdandi wrote:
I believe NTs expect you to lie and say your family's great, or at least filter only the good news for them, yes.
I don't lie to the NTs I work with about my family, and they don't lie to me. This isn't the same question as a casual "how are you", asking this means they want to know the answer.
Fair enough. I don't think it's still small talk when it reaches that point, though. You're beyond the ritualized pointless exchanges and actually providing information.
It's been my understanding that small talk was generally things concerning the weather, how one's day has been going, and "OMG that top is so cute! Where did you get it?"
I have come to realize you're supposed to point out the obvious weather that day, lie about how your day has been if it hasn't been good, and actually remember where you got 'that cute top'.
So yes, I think small talk is superficial things nobody really cares about.
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