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Hello everyone.

Ok, so first of all, I'll tell you a few things about me:
- I am 16.
- I have been diagnosed with ADD (Attention deficit disorder without hyperactivity).
- I want to know if I have Asperger's which is why I plan to see a specialist soon. I think it would explain a lot of things about me, things that happened to me and things that I do.
(Sorry for using the word "things" so many times.)


I have a question. As we all know, people with Asperger's syndrome are usually bullied at school, because they're different and they can't assimilate.
My problem is that I'm not sure if I actually have this condition. At school, I was always bullied and I was always an outsider except in year 5 and 6. I went to a different school after year 4 and it seems like everything was ok in year 5 and 6 - My classmates were friendly people and I made good friends with 3 guys from my class.
This is a big chapter that I can't remember very well, but I think I actually even changed a little bit. I remember I bought a Playstation2 back then, just because I wanted to play this violent game that everyone was playing, and I was often trying to be funny when I really wasn't and I often made a muppet of myself and I was often trying to make jokes that noone found funny and yet, everyone seemed to get along rather well with me.
After year 6, I had to go to a different school again and there I was bullied again straight away.

When I think about this, I feel shaky. I don't understand why I wasn't bullied in year 5 and 6.
I was always a rather quiet and serious person, so that's probably why I was bullied. (I don't like sarcasm and irony.) I can remember that my teacher from year 5/6 complained a lot about the way, even though I was a great student, I was not saying much during the lessons, but the problem is, I can't remember being so quiet and serious when I was with my those friends, so maybe I did actually change a bit during that time and that is why I don't know if this whole "not being able to assimilate"-condition is actually present. I just don't know how to look at the whole thing. Maybe I was trying to be someone else or something. I just don't know.

I don't know what I really want from you. I feel like talking to someone about this. I would be very, very thankful for some answers.

Sounds like you listed several Asperger's traits.
You just joined, right? Glad you joined us.

Yes, I just registered yesterday. Thanks for your reply.

Hello Zexion. I read your post. I've no idea why years 5 and 6 were different for you. I hope you have a better time now and in the future.

Hello Something similar happened to me, I was always an outsider and was bullied, so I didn't have any real friends and prefered being left alone, but last year I got to know two girls at the university, and I actually have fun hanging out with them. I am diagnosed with Aspergers, and I was (and am) really not interested in making friends. I was when I was younger, but now I have sort of given up, therefore I don't think it was me that changed attitude. Maybe it just more difficult for people with Aspergers to find friends, and therefore it took me more than 20 years to find some? ^^ I just met someone I got along with, and it's more difficult when you are different. That could explain why you wasn't bullied in 5th and 6th grade, but I'm only guessing.