Preventing breakdowns

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So I'm going to be forced into a situation pretty soon which has caused breakdowns in the past. This is a statement of fact - I can't prevent this, I accept that I'm going to have to do it.

I'm trying to prevent myself from going into a breakdown again when this situation happens. The cause of it is the stress of being around a person I intensely dislike and know that they don't like me either. I'm going to have to be able to talk with them in a calm, logical manner when we're all really angry at each other. It causes a lot of emotional stress to build up and makes me agitated - even thinking about doing it makes me feel sick.

How do you prevent yourself from going into breakdowns in any situation? What has worked, what hasn't, and how do you focus yourself away from those feelings when they come up?

Hi
I find that writing down what I want to say helps.
Often I write a big rant and find that I would not/could not give it to the other person once I read it.
Then, I gradually am able to settle down, and make a statement that is more calm.
Good luck.

Can you not use this time to hash out whatever it is that is causing this huge dislike/stress with each other and come to some sort of civil agreement? Obviously you want to keep whatever it is you two are so angry about to yourself, but take a step back and really evaluate if it's worth all the stress and anxiety it seems to be causing you.

Try and find some time to pull him/her aside and sort out whatever issues you have or at least come to some sort of agreement to get through whatever social situation it is that is causing you two to be forced to interact.

If that's not possible just don't get worked out about it beforehand and do your best to make it through the situation as quickly as you can.

DCxMagus, that's actually a pretty good idea. I don't know if I'll be able to talk to her beforehand, but I can always try to look into it and see if we can sort out the major emotional trash before going into the situation.

Does anyone else have any ideas?