Can an aspie improve?

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When I say this, I dont mean fully cure because you'll always have aspergers but can you improve symptom-wise when you get older?

When i was a younger kid, i was a full-out aspie. I had all of the symptoms from what I can remember. Now, I'll be 13 in two months and I think my symptoms have diminished. I still have some of the social issues, the occasional meltdown and a couple other things that I can't think of at the moment, but I've improved.

That brings me to my question-- can an aspie improve? What age does it usually happen?

Absolutely.

In high school I was barely verbal. I would NEVER initiate conversation in a social setting, and rarely talked to teachers except when spoken too. I was so hopelessly unaware of the social context and meanings of the activities around me I'm not sure how I even got through it. In my junior year I went to school one day and nobody was in class. Huh? Where the heck was everybody? Well they were all in the gym taking their SATs. Huh? What are SATs? Clueless. Utterly and hopelessly clueless.

I managed, even without any interventions, to get by and slowly improve. Things could have gone better with the right help at the right time, but they could have been a lot worse.

You get used to things and more adapted to the environment in which you live, yes. In many ways, though, I miss it when my Asperger's was "worse" as a kid. I just lived in my own world, it was fantastic.

Yep.

For me, late 20s onward.

I still have a 'fantastical' place in my mind. I for too long denied myself the pleasure of going there. Take a little advice from an old fart. Don't let go of the fantastic. Find ways to keep it alive even as you adapt.

I am trying, but it's slipping away. I spend far less time in my imagination now and I hate it.

I learned better social skills in my 20s - although I had a lot of other problems (sensory sensitivity, the cluster of problems typically referred to as executive dysfunction) that went completely unaddressed. Those other problems got worse in my 30s and I have lost some of my social skills as well.