Really Concerned About Guy on the Spectrum. Advice?

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Hi everyone,

So I am caught in a huge dilemma.

Sometimes, I will find and check out facebook profiles of people with ASD in my province (I only have a fan page account, so I don't have full profile access, so I'll only check the ones with full-information). It's one of my special interests, but that's beside the point.

I have been very concerned about this 21 year old guy who is being taken advantage of for laughs.
He will add girls in his area on facebook, find their numbers and call them repeatedly. I think he has lightened up on this but now he is doing something else.

He is now leaving facebook posts tagging all the girls he has added and will describe dreams with them or admit they 'suck at tickling'...meaning he feels that they have rejected him in some way. He seems fixated on tickling...maybe because he hasn't had any sexual experience.

Everyone laughs at him and thinks he is a living joke. Also, everyone who communicates with him appear to be members of the ''popular'' group and I can clearly see that they are making fun of him. I can understand sarcasm easily and am pretty good at analysing social situations and reading between the lines...but he isn't. He needs someone to be direct and to lay things out for him...because none of these people do.

What's sad is that this guy seems to have a lack of support. He isnt working and does not appear to go to any programs. He just sits at home on facebook, waiting for a girl. He clearly is not happy.

Maybe a possible solution is to have someone from WP 'friend' him and attempt to be frank with him and give him some advice.
I would do this myself, but I am a girl, and there is the strong possiblity I will be his next tickling victim....so this will have to be with a guy.
He isn't like Chris-chan in that this guy responds to everyone, so he wont ignore you.

Would this be a good idea? Thoughts? Advice? Suggestions?

I would be glad to do this. PM me. Thanks!

umm. first off im confused... do you know him personally or have u talked to him or have u just seen all this via facebook. and i doubt if you told him what was up u would be his next "tickling victim" im not accusing you but your post makes it sound like u stalk aspies on facebook. unless he asks u 4 hlp i would advise u 2 mind ya bidnizz

I do 'stalk' them because my interest consists of compiling information on AS patterns of behaviour and nothing more.

I have not made any contact with most of the people whose pages I look at, although there are a few that I have met and some I consider myself friends with.

The problem with this though is that I am an extremely empathic and compassionate person and when something like this goes on, I feel sorry for the person and want to help. There is another possible aspie whose page I look at, and he is an Oxycontin and painkiller addict. I can't help him, but I at least want to help someone.

And that is exactly why I am asking someone else...specifically a guy on the spectrum, to do this for me, in that I do wnat to elp im but I dont want to be his next victim.