I hate the word "please"

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For some reason I find it aggressive, even though it's supposed to be polite.

Perchance would sir prefer the phrase "would you kindly"?

I'm pleased when somebody says "please." It implies the person respects you.

It would feel better if people didn't use any polite formulas/words at all. Politeness feels aggressive.

I don't hate it, but I find it fairly pointless. Why is it considered polite if I say a certain one-syllable word when asking something, but it's considered impolite if I don't say it? I'm asking the same thing; I'm just putting a seemingly pointless word at the beginning or end of the sentence, and it seems to make all the difference to people.

I find it annoying when someone expects me to say please even when they ask me if I would like something. I have no problem with the word Thank You though. I also don't mind saying please if I am initiating the request but when someone else intiates the request, it feels weird to say please.

I sure do feel politeness is pointless. But sometimes, I see the darker side of it instead of it's nuisances.

Because I myself is suspicious towards politeness. It makes people put their guard down and leave them vulnerable.
In other words, when a person feel trust towards the polite person, that's it. One would never know if they have a hidden agenda or a scheme of sort.
It happens often from where I live, where politeness is one of the criminal's part of their modus operadi. And these stuffs are currently the most popular.

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I'm happy whenever I hear someone say "Please" to me. It implies that there is a connection between me and whoever says "please" to me.

I find 'have a nice day' or when people call me 'ma'am' more offensive.

I was raised believing that the words 'please' and 'thank you' and 'excuse me' etc indicated politeness and respect and without people using such phrases, they should just be ignored.

In fact, I will not do anything unless people say 'please' at the end of it.

After all, 'please' is the 'magic word'.

I also hate it when people bump into me in a crowded place, without even so much as "excuse me" or "I'm sorry" when they bumped into me and not vice versa, because I always apologise for my clumsiness.

I also think it's a 'generational thing'.

The Silent Generation and Baby Boomers are more likely to get upset and offended if these words are not used, where Generation X and Y, either don't care, or feel like it somehow insults their intelligence.

Despite raising my two children the way I was, teaching them courtesy and politeness...and saying 'please' and 'thank you'...somehow, that never seemed to stick...and they never say it.

I gave up in the end.

I remember I once had a customer have a massive go at me when I forgot to say please when informing (in a very polite and friendly tone of voice) the price at the till. I always say please now and be formal to avoid that situation where I feel embarrassed and powerless. Did wanna punch that b***h in the face though.

No doubt formality and etiquette could be used for nefarious reasons.

However, I still like it when somebody says please to a request--it takes the bossy sting out of it.