Has anyone else had to put up with this as a child???

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11 Sep 2011, 11:41 pm

I don't know about you, but as a child I had trouble with some school psychologists and pedagogists because they thought I had a learning disabbilty or had some form of mental retardation. It was annoying because I actually got rejected from one school because of that. My parents were lucky enough to find a newly open school that was willing to take anyone willing to pay tuition. At the end I was the top of my class, so I obviously proved those people wrong. But the fact that those so-called professionals are making those kind of diangnoses and make things more difficult for autistic children really makes me angry.



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12 Sep 2011, 1:17 am

Based on my experiences, I have less than no confidence in child psychologists,
meaning I have confidence they will probably make things worse.
I don't feel like telling stories at the moment. ... maybe later.


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12 Sep 2011, 3:16 am

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I'd be interested to hear them at some point if you ever feel like it.

I've recently started seeing a counsellor specialising in autism/asperger's. They mostly work with children and I'm finding they're fairly useless with me. Any advice they give me is something I've already thought up on my own. Their only real contribution was to recommend some anti-depressants, which I ended up refusing. I'm not sure if I should go back.



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12 Sep 2011, 3:23 am

I have a thread going, asking similar questions, but its regarding family and not myself. Mind you I had a few assessments with I was a child. They hadn't a clue and still don't have today its shameful.


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12 Sep 2011, 4:51 am

Yes, I was rejected from a private school for several years in a row as a kid. The person evaluating me determined that I likely had some mild mental retardation, while the written intelligence tests I took at the same time determined that I was in the gifted range. Apparently the administrators thought that, in an academic setting, social ability was more important than academic ability. To this day, I still cannot understand their logic.


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12 Sep 2011, 4:53 am

mds_02 wrote:
To this day, I still cannot understand their logic.
What logic? :lol:


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12 Sep 2011, 5:11 am

Indeed.


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12 Sep 2011, 5:37 am

I've found that not all "proffesionals" are proffesional, over the years I've had quite a few of them either scratching their heads or ignoring the problem, but recently I thought I'd give the system another go, and this time I got my answers almost before I realized I asked them.



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12 Sep 2011, 8:20 am

My parents were always told my doctors that I was basicaly ret*d and would grow up to live in a group home. Everybody has always had very low expectations of me.


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12 Sep 2011, 8:38 am

mds_02 wrote:
Yes, I was rejected from a private school for several years in a row as a kid. The person evaluating me determined that I likely had some mild mental retardation, while the written intelligence tests I took at the same time determined that I was in the gifted range. Apparently the administrators thought that, in an academic setting, social ability was more important than academic ability. To this day, I still cannot understand their logic.


That's how it's always been though. I mean, look at how much emphasis they put on sports... It's the same thing. Besides, school isn't REALLY about you learning and becoming smart and whatnot... School's job is to get you used to being away from your house for about 8 hours a day, to teach you basic skills that most jobs requires(math, reading, writing), and to get you used to the idea of "shut up and do what you're told." The rest is just crap. They don't want smart people. They don't want critical thinkers. They want people they can easily manipulate and people who love being part of a big herd.

Oh yeah, school is also kinda like a daycare center too, it provides us with a place to be put while our parents are at work, and it's also there to just generally keep us busy so we don't learn anything useful(anything deemed inappropriate by the school staff) or interesting.



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12 Sep 2011, 9:35 am

from my experience with psychologists/psychiatrists growing up I've learned 3 things
1.) You can't trust them. every single thing you tell them is going straight to your parents or whoever is paying them. especially when they say everything that happens in that room is confidential.
2.) they will always diagnose you with something no matter how far off it is (the most often one is depression because they are able to misrepresent the apathy most children have with seeing a doctor with general unhappiness).
3.) they don't do anything useful. they'll ask about your day and other mundane questions you get asked by literally every other person that day and then see you off. this mostly applies to child specialists though.



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12 Sep 2011, 10:22 am

Yep, I've no faith in them either. When I was little, my mom was told that maybe one day I might be able to dress myself and cook myself a meal. Now I'm about 3 modules away from completing my maths degree. :roll:

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That's how it's always been though. I mean, look at how much emphasis they put on sports... It's the same thing. Besides, school isn't REALLY about you learning and becoming smart and whatnot... School's job is to get you used to being away from your house for about 8 hours a day, to teach you basic skills that most jobs requires(math, reading, writing), and to get you used to the idea of "shut up and do what you're told." The rest is just crap. They don't want smart people. They don't want critical thinkers. They want people they can easily manipulate and people who love being part of a big herd.

Oh yeah, school is also kinda like a daycare center too, it provides us with a place to be put while our parents are at work, and it's also there to just generally keep us busy so we don't learn anything useful(anything deemed inappropriate by the school staff) or interesting.


I absolutely agree with every word of this.



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12 Sep 2011, 10:22 am

MagicMeerkat wrote:
My parents were always told my doctors that I was basicaly ret*d and would grow up to live in a group home. Everybody has always had very low expectations of me.
Same story here. I just want to give the finger to those doctors.



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12 Sep 2011, 7:00 pm

Generally I'm ok with doctors. And by doctors I mean GPs who diagnose colds or infections and prescript medication for them. But when it comes to psychologists or psychiatrists I tend not to trust them. I remember psychologists giving me the wrong kind of cousel and getting me into trouble when i was in school. As I grew up i lost respect for them, and up to this days, I tried recently to follow some pyschologist's advice and when everything went she just shrugged and said that she still thought she was right.

I know not every psychologist is like that, but it's very outrageous that some of them just don't do their work right and affect the course of other people's lives just because they were incompetent and weren't thorough on their work. Somebody should take their licenses away, so that they start taking their jobs seriously.



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12 Sep 2011, 7:57 pm

SyphonFilter wrote:
MagicMeerkat wrote:
My parents were always told my doctors that I was basicaly ret*d and would grow up to live in a group home. Everybody has always had very low expectations of me.
Same story here. I just want to give the finger to those doctors.


Yeah me too. I might even look some of them up and write them letters, basicaly thanking them for wrecking my childhood.


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13 Sep 2011, 12:53 am

they just thought I was a psycho....which I was kinda as a kid.

I did have this hot asian counselor lady though that I used to like going to because she would wear mini skirts.


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