Do u find it hard to call people by their names?

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Not long ago, It was really hard for me to call any people by their names. I get tensed up when I tried to call people by their names. but now I find it comfortable to do that by practicing.

Do you tense up when trying to call an individual by their names or nicknames?

I don't have trouble in that area.

I do not have trouble calling people by their name, but I have always had a particular dislike for calling people by nicknames. So much so that I used to fuss at my parents when I was little and they would call my brother by any name but his given one.

I do. People have pointed out to me in the past that I never called them by name. I didn't know what the big deal was, since presumably they already knew their names. I have equal trouble with nicknames and pet names. I've seen many people here say they have the same issue, but I haven't seen any explanation for it. I'd really like to understand why it happens, because it's really odd to me.

Regarding nicknames, I get really irritated by people who try to make back-formations of people's names. If someone's name is John, they insist on calling them Jonathan. If their name is Alex, they insist on calling them Alexander. The problem is that those aren't their given names. Their names really are just John and Alex (for example). I don't know why that bugs me so much. It doesn't happen to my name.

Yes. Except when desperate to get their attention.
When it comes to bands members though I do it too much.
Hi Tim. Could you sign his for me Tim? How do you like this town Tim? I'll see you at the next gig Tim. Tim. Tim. Tim *head explodes*

Half the time I cannot remember the names. I never forget a face, but I have a hard time with names

ruveyn

I have the same problem as ruveyn. I often can't remember their names. That is the challenge for me. Otherwise, it is not much of an issue for me to call someone by their name.

Yes.

Definitely Yes
I cannot call people by the first name
Unless they tell me too
And even then its difficult
I feel almost like I dont deserve it because I havent earned it yet
After gaining comfort with a person it becomes easier
I dont even call my wife by her first name I call her only Baby
I find nick names easier
More like personal labels based on how that person influences my perceptions
Most of the time I either stand quietly until Im noticed and they start the convo
Or I say excuse me or hey really softly
This is a big problem on a construction site
Loud tools everywhere

Yes, definitely. Saying a name is a form of interpersonal engagement that feels weird for some reason. I don't even like saying my own name. I remember a teacher in high school that I really liked, and I don't think I ever used either her first name or last name in conversation. I may not have ever used any other teachers' names either, I'm not sure.

Yes. I can't remember people's names most of the time.

I hate it when people say my name; it just feels creepy for someone to want to be that close to you. I also hate the little greetings you get from people that are questions, such as the "how's it going?". I never know how to respond to that, and then should I ask them how it is going as well? Do they really care, because I sure don't. It all feels so forced ... bleah.

yeah, especially if i dont know the person very well, or i haven't seen them in a while. i hate saying my own name.

I can remember people's names, usually. If I have repeated exposure. I don't mind using them.

I absolutely hate nicknames, though. I mean, not like net pseudonyms, but the cutesy informal things.

Yes, and I usually don't know why. Why I find it easier to say some peoples' name could possibly be a mystery, but there are a few as to why I don't; I really don't like pronouncing their name, but why that is the case is also in a way.... a mystery.

Just some people. Certain people I want to call by their names only, I don't want to call them "he/she".

I dont have any trouble with this at all. At first I thougth I did when reading this question but then I realized its more that you dont call someone by their name in all circumstances. Its just awkward to say, "hey Darin, did you...." when its just the two of you, you would just say "did you....". but no i do not.