On p5 of the great 'autism social rules' thread, @DW_a_Mom says
"For the record, trust is the capital of the NT world. Sure, there are the dog eat dog types out there (avoid as much as possible), but they are outnumbered by those who trade in trust. You can't marry without trust, and you can't be truly happy without trust. Rule number 2 may keep you from getting hurt, but it will also keep you from truly living. Still, I can see how it becomes a defensive reaction for someone who can't tell who is worth trusting and who isn't, and who has been hurt by making the wrong assumptions. NT's have a system for it that AS have a more difficult time learning."
Does anyone have any thoughts on how this NT 'system of trust' works? and how we can use it?
Maybe it is
1. even though your (Aspie) reading of other people is deficient, still try to work out who is trustworthy by the way they act
2. take the risk of trusting in people. Show them your emotions. Be open with them. Share with them. Rely on them. Ask them for help.
3. if people prove untrustworthy, and your (Aspie) ability to defend yourself both internally and externally is much less than that of an NT, don't be too frightened of the hurt that will happen - it's just a price for living.
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