Why cant you make friends??

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Answer only if you are an aspie of course

I did make friends in my early age but i became very recluse during my formation years while going through High School when my only possible best friend bullied me(he had new friends)....I turned distrustful of everyone and still havent found any friend who doesnt talk about Girls,Cars,H.Phones,Lame movies...which i find very uninteresting.

I'm and aspie and I can make friends.

I've always had problems making friends because I'm very different. I'm not interested in the things most people my age are, I'm very awkward because of my AS, I have lots of misunderstandings with NTs, I have some other disabilities in addition to AS that make it harder for me to get out(I cant drive & I live in a rural area) & it's harder for me to do things typical people can do, I was also bullied a lot as a kid because of all those reasons so I'm kind of hesitant to get close to people offline

I have a couple already. I don't want any more - I like my me time!

I had one but that person keeps getting critical of when I treat people nice or give the praise-and he is a fellow aspie and constantly complains that people he has gotten to know over the years won't initiate things with him-I wonder why if you criticize people because they are exactly functioing at the same exact level as you.

If I knew that, I'd have some.

When I was in school I was able to make a few friends but I did not keep them.
I know that I could meet friends. My social skills have gotten much better over the years.
My main problem is location.
I like to be around people that are considered strange by society's standards.
I live in a small town where everyone is exactly the same. There are no hippies or punks just normal, close-minded people
.It would be easier if I lived in a city with a diverse group of people.
when I go to cities I realize that if I lived there I would most definitely have friends. I have conversations with people that I would like to get to know better.
I fit in much better there in some southern town that could be compared to hell.

i only had the one "friend" throughout pri and sec school


however, it won't be the last time i will say "i haven't been formally diagnosed".

now i have a few more, but its kinda hard to define friend from colleague, especially with what i do...

Probably because I do not make the effort to.

I don't make friends because I usually find other people boring and they usually find me boring. I detest discussions about celebrities, who's hot, gossip, make up, fashion, pretty much anything pop culture... And, of course, few people put up with my speeches about astrophysics, pharmaceuticals, or owls for more than a few minutes. What's funny is that other people seem to take offense when I get bored of their conversations but seem surprised if I get offended when they get bored of my conversation. NTs are strange, lol.

The weird thing is I can start a friendship, but I don't know how to maintain it. I have 2 friends now that I talk to on a semi-regular basis, and it's going well. So we'll see....

I hope a response doesn't require an official diagnosis. But anyway I think I'm on the spectrum somewhere and the friends I have are because of prolonged proximity. I really don't socialize with anybody these days but I think that happens naturally as you age. I have never been good at the social reciprocity thing. I don't seek people out so eventually they stop seeking me out.

I'm not officially diagnosed but I never knew how to make friends. The only friend I had in grade school was a set-up by my first grade teacher because another girl and myself didn't have any friends. When I started junior high I somehow ended up being friends with two sisters (older than me) because they walked with me to the school bus stop.

Any friends I've had is because they approached me and they maintained the relationship.

i thought this was going to be a challenge like my parents give me. as in why oh why cant you make friends? you're not trying hard enough! people and me dont have much in common. we bore each other mostly. and when i do have something in common with people and want to talk with them i dont know how. there arent many people that dont morally/personally offend me and that i find interesting. i cant go up to people and talk to them and im not sure what the rules are for things like that and what you can talk about. ive also been told that the fact that i dont react to things makes it hard to get to know me.

I can but can't. At school I didn't really have friends. Well, friendships went up and down. Sometimes I would be part of a trio for a few months then nothing again.

But kids used to use me as a person to run to if they fell out with their friends. I was even surprised when an NT came upto me and said, ''you're the friend I will have if my best friend is absent or if I fall out with her'', and I was like, ''you're not supposed to do that, mate!''

So I'm not that good at making friends, but I'm excellent at being used.

I can make friends, but keeping them is the problem.