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22 Dec 2011, 3:46 am

I am alone, most all the time, except for my child.
No adult contact other then work related.

On other forums I been deleted a few times,
without rhyme or reason.

I am not a troll, all I do is try to help others who needs a friend.
I do not understand what I do wrong, when they do not take the time to tell me.

I start making connections, friends, only to become disconnected from them.
and I don't know why.

I know you can not tell me, without knowing me.
but i feel so lost.............



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22 Dec 2011, 4:00 am

What are you diagnosed with?



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22 Dec 2011, 4:06 am

aspergers



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22 Dec 2011, 4:28 am

The best advice I can give you is to find a local aspergers support group.

I'm not apart of one. But what works for me is a good long soak in the sauna or steam room. It gives me time to reflect.

I also take co-resperidone which is a mood-stabilizing over-the-counter medication.

How young is your child? Do you have enough time to be away from him/her?



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22 Dec 2011, 3:17 pm

I have been on forums (briefly) where anyone who doesn't agree with the moderators can be banned without warning. This isn't necessarily your fault. I know what you mean about not having adult contact. I'm a single mom with a child too. I don't even have work at the moment. Ack. Hang around and see what happens. If you aren't sure how you're coming across you could pm someone you think would give you an honest but nice answer and ask. This is a pretty accepting place for the most part. Check out the Parenting forum too.


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24 Dec 2011, 3:17 am

Thank you for the replys.

I created a whole new email and identity and everything just to get back on the last site i was having problems with.
Why? I like having answers to why I get condemned without rhyme or reason.
So I came out with who I was and that same person deleted me again, but this time it was not that simple, because even though my account was deleted I was still remaining on their system until I left or they rebooted the server.
So I had a chance to argue my points concerning the ethics of such treatment.

I like to help people, and it turned out that one of the moderators felt I was stealing his/her fire. when for me it was more about helping those who had a need. and my answers apparently undermined the one who was ego tripping.

When I argued my points, many other of the members started joining my side of the argument. they didn't count on having a discourse with someone who has studied many religious philosophies as well as philosophy in general. After all, how could a forum stand on its own merits for being a place of welcome and to assist and help others learn and grow from their experiences with them, when those who are moderating it are ego tripping and being bias for their own gain?

It does not mean they will let me back again, but I am happy now because I understand what when wrong. I didn't mean to step on toes or steal someones fire. its just who I am of that to want to help others when I see that I can.



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24 Dec 2011, 4:55 am

Our mods here are genuinely nice. I've been on forums were the mods will delete your posts or ban you in they held something against you.

A lot of us here have had problems with other forums. Some people are labelled as trolls, seeking attention or something else but here we are accepted. I've even been on forums where a whole group of people have turned against me, including the mods.

Just remember to keep an open mind here and remember some people don't always think about that what with the different levels of theory of mind and the inability of some to not pick up on sarcasm.


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24 Dec 2011, 5:15 am

Yes, most of us are used to being ignored or rejected - makes us a little more tolerant of difference.

Up to a point, anyway



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25 Dec 2011, 1:02 am

peterd wrote:
Yes, most of us are used to being ignored or rejected - makes us a little more tolerant of difference.

Up to a point, anyway


That's what rejection has done to me. I'm tolerant of all types of differences now.


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25 Dec 2011, 12:27 pm

PM me. I'm 66 y/o male..
Been living with this since I was 14......How much experience do you need ?

No questions left unanswered.

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25 Dec 2011, 12:56 pm

Dieselsmoke wrote:
Been living with this since I was 14......How much experience do you need ?

You were neurotypical until you were 14?



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25 Dec 2011, 1:16 pm

Obviously not...it was retrospective recognition... as Asperger's was not a commonly understood condition in the 1950's.

By the time I was 14 I understood I was different from others and later diagnosed .

Besides...why the hell am I explaining anything to you?



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25 Dec 2011, 1:19 pm

lol



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25 Dec 2011, 6:40 pm

Ignorant wrote:
I created a whole new email and identity and everything just to get back on the last site i was having problems with.
Why? I like having answers to why I get condemned without rhyme or reason.


I was in a similar situation. I got banned from a forum with no explanation, and I went back there later like you did, with a new name, but let them know who I was because I wanted to understand what happened and work things out. They ended up banning me again. Finally like 7 years later the guy who banned me, apologized to me for being a jerk and I went back again. And the same s**t started happening again, that happened before. The last time, I left on my own with dignity before they could scapegoat me again.

After all that I realized, people who automatically condemn you like that have got their own problems. They are just looking for someone else to take it out on.