Why do I always think of the future and feel so scared...

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I know someone is going to go I'm the same way, but I really don't think you are. Every night when I go to sleep I always seem to think of when my parents die and brothers are grown that I'm always going to be alone. I'm not really close with my brothers, but I can't stop thinking about when my parents, grandparents die and I'm all alone. It's just killing me. I'm afraid I'll be alone forever and I don't know what to do about it.

The Redwood Coast Regional Center helps me with those issues. If you have a Regional Center near you then you are better off.

What is this Regional Center do exactly? I have no clue what to search for to find one in my area.

They only exist in California. My Regional Center helps me in advocacy, provides me day services to get out in the community and a service coordinator that sees to my health like after my parents pass away. They provide services to help me with my business like a job coach. Also both me and my girlfriend (wife to be) decided to have a baby and they help with parenting classes. It's for people with developmental related disabilities like autism but not very high functioning autism like A.S. Although I think if a person with A.S has enough difficulty they will just be labeled with HFA. Not sure.

http://www.redwoodcoastrc.org/

Do you want me to see if I can help you find services in your area? the Regional Centers are federally and state funded. IF they do not exist in your state then advocacy should exist to ask for this as otherwise people with autism can be isolated and cannot get to the grocery store for instance. Some if no services are available risk institutionalization over that of community integrations such as supportive independent living and group homes.

So when you are scared will this give your relatives a longer live? No? So why you are scared? Does it help you to prepare yourself for such a situation? No?

So there is no reason to be scared, because it does not serve any benefit for you or anyone else.



Do have any practical plan to change this this? If not, you should start to develop some. This is more helpful than torturing yourself with angs.

I agree with the above poster: worrying won't change things at all, unless you do something.

Don't try to 'fight' the thoughts, however: that just makes them seem stronger. Just aknowledge that they're there in the background and continue on in your life.

Everyone worries about their parents/loved ones dying to some degree: nobody knows how they'll cope at the time. Maybe you'll survive marvelously.

i'm NT and i'm always scared about global warming, water scarcity, world hunger, the economy, war over resources, earthquakes, going broke, etc...

i think a counselor would be great for me...and for you...

there must be someplace near where you live with free counseling.

What about reading Marcus Aurelius and his Meditations? His Stoic Philosophy tries to show that having angst or being scared does not help anyway. If you become aware how unimportant your angst really is, you will develop a sereneness, which help you to do what you really need to do.

http://classics.mit.edu/Antoninus/meditations.html

I sometimes had exactly the same thoughts and feelings as you describe when going to bed at night in my teenage years. Now I'm reaching my fifties and it's happened. I'm all alone, since I'm not able to make friends and my siblings and extended family don't want me anywhere near. The bad news for you is it's a real possibility. The good news is it's not as bad as you fear.

I wonder if you're in your teenage years or older. If I were in my teenage years now with the knowledge I have of AS and of NTs' nature, I'd make sure to transform that fear into action - build myself up in every way I need, such as education, profession, special interests, and take good care of my money, however little might come my way. These are the things that make you strong should you ever really be alone like you fear and like I am.

Greenteas quote made me think and I do think about this in the future when my parents pass on and my older brother who I believe is on the Autism Spectrum will need to be cared for so I will have to do that in the future as he is unable to care for himself. We will have each other. I am not close to my younger sister at all but have a good relationship with my other younger brother and the oldest brother.
I have no close friends and have really no interested in relationships and feel that the relationship side is beyond me to be honest I would rather accept being single and live alone and I do spend the majority of my time alone. With friendships I am not capable of making friends. I feel I have no choice to be alone by myself and do most things by myself because the majority of the time I have no one to socialise with being socially awkward. Most of the time I meet people who I class as acquaintances with their own friends. So yes I am all alone too.
I feel for you Greentea and BryceEason and others who feel the same way. I would suggest meeting other Aspies through meetup groups as I have just as a way of trying to meet likeminded people. It can also be a way of accessing services for people with Aspergers.