Intrepid_Squirrel wrote:
I think they call it the Dunning-Kruger effect, a cognitive bias in which your incompetency in something actually hides your incompetency by creating an illusion of superiority. Not gonna lie, that was exactly me, reflecting back on my life in school...
It's a really weird feeling realizing that it took me 21 years to find out that I had AS.
It explained A LOT once I started reflecting on everything in my life (and my past).
I still wonder if my family or my old friends knew all along.
I'm certain what few good friends I had were mostly friends out of pity. I was one hell of an unstable, callous kid back in high school.
I feel like people should be speaking up earlier if they know someone has AS or might have AS/NT. I only started to really start improving on my social skills and myself in general once I realized what my faults were. (Unfortunately, since noone told me, it was a really long process of picking up on pieces of embarrassing moments and social incidents throughout my life).
Thoughts? Share your experience!
Self diagnosed based on clearly fitting DSM criteria (bother IV and V)... I found out: the day after I turned 30... (kinda)
I went through a few times in life that I started to try to figure out why I had different mental inefficiencies, but never really found anything that fit...
January 1, 2012: I took one of quizzes that float around... and it said "yup that's you" so I started to research, read up a bunch and joined here the same day... It's been a current interest since. I am not sure that ASD will stay a long-term interest but its definitely still something that I read about every day.
As for working on improving social skills and yourself: 21 is a good age to have something to define as your road block to improvement and adulthood. It's sort of a pivotal age where most NT's even seem to forget that its time to grow up and really be honest about what life truly means.
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Very high systematizing, low empathy, but moderate to high sympathy.
I do not experience cognitive dissonance reduction the way that other people do.
Professionally diagnosed in March 2018