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28 Mar 2012, 12:38 pm

Hey, I need some tips on how to shut up and how to know when it is appropriate to talk and what is appropriate to talk about ASAP please!


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28 Mar 2012, 12:49 pm

Shivan wrote:
Hey, I need some tips on how to shut up and how to know when it is appropriate to talk and what is appropriate to talk about ASAP please!

just dont talk well...........i have been trying to do that :?


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28 Mar 2012, 1:35 pm

Why can't the PPR forum have topics like this?



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28 Mar 2012, 1:56 pm

When I remember, writing down a note of things. want to say takes the pressure off. This works best in work situations though, it might be considered odd to do this with a date or friends :)

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28 Mar 2012, 2:36 pm

Keep practising, you have the correct attitude for an aspie



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28 Mar 2012, 3:09 pm

I never figured it out.
I figured nobody around me really cares to know about anything so why bother. Most of the time I just don't say a thing.
Doesn't always work though.



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28 Mar 2012, 10:19 pm

It's done by shutting your mouth and not letting sounds out of it.


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28 Mar 2012, 10:51 pm

Duct tape. Can fix anything.


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28 Mar 2012, 10:53 pm

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Hey, I need some tips on how to shut up and how to know when it is appropriate to talk and what is appropriate to talk about ASAP please!


You already took the biggest step. You are making a sincere effort to making positive and respectful communications. As a second step I would explain that you have autism. Tell them that sometimes you can not help yourself.

The NT people have a duty to meet you half way on this issue. They can provide you with friendly and gentle reminders to give other people a chance to talk. In fact, your honesty and sincerity will instantaneously compel many NT people to adore you.


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29 Mar 2012, 2:10 am

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Hey, I need some tips on how to shut up and how to know when it is appropriate to talk and what is appropriate to talk about ASAP please!


You already took the biggest step. You are making a sincere effort to making positive and respectful communications. As a second step I would explain that you have autism. Tell them that sometimes you can not help yourself.

The NT people have a duty to meet you half way on this issue. They can provide you with friendly and gentle reminders to give other people a chance to talk. In fact, your honesty and sincerity will instantaneously compel many NT people to adore you.


This hasn't been true at all in my experience.

It is possible that I am just a dick though.



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29 Mar 2012, 2:27 am

It would be wonderful to have a day, week, month, year, or forever of eberryone shutting up.



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29 Mar 2012, 5:20 am

Jory wrote:
Why can't the PPR forum have topics like this?


What's the PPR forum?


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29 Mar 2012, 5:55 am

Jory wrote:
Why can't the PPR forum have topics like this?
Start one. Please!! ! :wink:


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29 Mar 2012, 5:56 am

Shivan wrote:
Jory wrote:
Why can't the PPR forum have topics like this?


What's the PPR forum?
It's Politics, Philosophy and Religion, under Topical Discussion heading.
http://www.wrongplanet.net/forum20.html You'll either love it or hate it.


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29 Mar 2012, 8:34 am

namaste wrote:
Shivan wrote:
Hey, I need some tips on how to shut up and how to know when it is appropriate to talk and what is appropriate to talk about ASAP please!

just dont talk well...........i have been trying to do that :?


I wish I could. :lol: My problem in talking too much is a workshop called Our Pathways to Health which is a workshop developed by Stanford University to teach people how to become involved in their own self-managed car. I'm a peer co-leader, so there is a lot of speaking I need to do (it's 2 1/2 hours a week for 6 weeks).