Board index › General Discussion › General Autism Discussion

Felt Something Was Wrong....

Page 1 of 1 [ 8 posts ] 

Previous topic | Next topic

Pandora_Box
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Dec 2010
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,299

03 Apr 2012, 12:05 am

...but didn't act upon it.

Today, I think my dad's girlfriend was not feeling well. Like emotionally. I felt there was something wrong. My brain went through a few things, such as comfort things like a shoulder rub or just an "Are you okay" or even a hug. I felt like I needed to do something, but I didn't actually do it.

Anyone been through this?



enrico_dandolo
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 20 Nov 2011
Age: 35
Gender: Female
Posts: 866

03 Apr 2012, 12:57 am

Haha, yes, it happens to me. Every time, I start thinking about the best way to deal with it, agonizing internally about every possible option until it is plainly too late. for it to make sense.



Verdandi
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 7 Dec 2010
Age: 55
Gender: Female
Posts: 12,275
Location: University of California Sunnydale (fictional location - Real location Olympia, WA)

03 Apr 2012, 1:22 am

Pandora_Box wrote:
...but didn't act upon it.

Today, I think my dad's girlfriend was not feeling well. Like emotionally. I felt there was something wrong. My brain went through a few things, such as comfort things like a shoulder rub or just an "Are you okay" or even a hug. I felt like I needed to do something, but I didn't actually do it.

Anyone been through this?


I go through this frequently. I identify a problem and run through a mental list of possible responses. This is how most of my social interactions go, but sometimes finding the right responses and implementing them can be hard and exhausting.



ValentineWiggin
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 15 May 2011
Age: 37
Gender: Female
Posts: 4,907
Location: Beneath my cat's paw

03 Apr 2012, 1:29 am

I came up with a list I go to during times of uncertainty.

"I hope you feel better."
"Would you like a hug?" (If I feel up to giving one.)
"Do you want to talk about something?"


_________________
"Such is the Frailty
of the human Heart, that very few Men, who have no Property, have any Judgment of their own.
They talk and vote as they are directed by Some Man of Property, who has attached their Minds
to his Interest."


Pandora_Box
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Dec 2010
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,299

03 Apr 2012, 11:10 am

Verdandi wrote:
I go through this frequently. I identify a problem and run through a mental list of possible responses. This is how most of my social interactions go, but sometimes finding the right responses and implementing them can be hard and exhausting.


I absolutely understand. It's like my brain indetifies the problem, it has a clear list of what is appropriate to do in the situation,however, my body or my mouth never get the message.



YellowBanana
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 14 Feb 2011
Age: 52
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,032
Location: mostly, in my head.

03 Apr 2012, 11:54 am

Pandora_Box wrote:
Verdandi wrote:
I go through this frequently. I identify a problem and run through a mental list of possible responses. This is how most of my social interactions go, but sometimes finding the right responses and implementing them can be hard and exhausting.


I absolutely understand. It's like my brain indetifies the problem, it has a clear list of what is appropriate to do in the situation,however, my body or my mouth never get the message.


Brilliantly phrased Verdandi. Describes something that happens to me all the time.
It's frustrating and tiring.


_________________
Female. Dx ASD in 2011 @ Age 38. Also Dx BPD


Pandora_Box
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Dec 2010
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,299

03 Apr 2012, 6:22 pm

I don't like being the jerk who saw something wrong and never acted upon it.



miss-understood
Snowy Owl
Snowy Owl

User avatar

Joined: 19 Dec 2011
Age: 52
Gender: Female
Posts: 138

04 Apr 2012, 5:39 am

It's not too late. You could always say something like "Were you Ok yesterday?, I thought you were upset but I didn't know what to say" Even the day (or two) after, I'm sure it would be appreciated. Not knowing what to say is a perfectly valid reason for not saying anything.