Anyone here with a speech delay when you were young?

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24 Apr 2012, 5:42 pm

Hi,

Its amazing how well you could draft your postings or responses, does this mean most of the users here are aspies which essentially means no speech delays?

If any of you had speech delay when you were young, can you help me understand how did you cope up with the speech delay? What made the most difference? A speech therapy or exposure to the right group of people? Or is it just the right age and then you get it just like that?

My son has speech delays, he is going to speech therapy, he is improving well but not at the pace we would like to. Deep in my heart, I want to speak to him in my local language, but he is strugglling to learn just one language, it is not fair on me to introduce another language to him.

I want to send him to a typical school where he is exposed to language, but then afraid to do so. Afraid to take off support for him. He does not have any sensory issues and his social interaction issues are minimal, its his speech that is primarily the issue



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24 Apr 2012, 6:15 pm

Sir, I'm afraid you put this in the wrong forum. You will probably get better answers in te general autism discussion. Either delete this and repost it or ask a mod to move it. As for your actual question I can't help you.



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24 Apr 2012, 8:50 pm

I was just considered 'quiet.'
I did alot of listening though, and when I did begin to speak, I was bilingual due to the environment.


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24 Apr 2012, 10:02 pm

I didn't talk until I was 4. I was able to say numbers, letters, and certain words at 2, but wasn't able to put together sentences until 4. My mom would take me to speech therapy from 1-4 years old, but it only helped marginally. I was socially awkward and very introverted for most of my childhood but went through some serious social skill learning when I was about 12-13, which helped tremendously.

The best thing to do with your son is just to wait for the language skills to grow. Just like is not going grow to be 6' tall overnight, he's not going to start talking immediately. I recommend showing him lots of love talking to him all of the time. Whenever you're with him, just babble on to him, without expecting a response. Talk to your son the same way you would to a pet until he can talk back.

I'm not sure which languages you want him to learn but whichever ones they are, he should be able to, fluently. People with autism don't have trouble learning foreign languages and translated words, it's more the basic ideas of language and especially non-verbal communication that are a struggle. If he grows up to be high-functioning, he will surely be able to hold a conversation in any language you teach him. I myself am fluent in 2 languages and learning another one.

If you can afford to send him to some kind of alternative school, I highly recommend it. Public schools in America are hell for people with AS. I went to a therapeutic school at a hospital for 8th grade and grew infinitely more as a person than I did in all of my other 11 years of public schooling combined. Therapeutic or art schools are the best.


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24 Apr 2012, 10:13 pm

I didn't speak until I was five then had to take speech thearpy for for four years.



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24 Apr 2012, 10:32 pm

Honestly I can't recall much of what it had been like not to speak. I do remember going to therapy for it and other things. I think what helped me most, though, was my autism not being made such a huge deal in my life. Instead of being told I had arbitrary restrictions or limitations, I had no idea what it really meant to be autistic, and so I fit in with the other kids in school the best I could and made some friends.

Having switched to homeschooling didn't necessarily help any, but with the way some talk about it, I don't think going to high school would have done me any better. Besides, I think I've gotten far more crucial socializing skills from a job I worked at for a couple years and, more recently, a soup kitchen I'm volunteering at. Nothing about popularity contests or petty teenage drama that are hopefully left behind when people finally grow up.

I'd like to think I'm relatively "normal". Probably far better at writing in a lot of ways, but simply observing and learning from others and not fixating on what I'm told I can't do has gone a long way.


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24 Apr 2012, 11:01 pm

First off aspergers compared to autism- Speech delay doe NOT make or break a diagnosis.

My mom said I didn't start talking until 2 or 3 I need to ask her again. I had speech therapy preschool-4th for S's, th's, and thinking of words I wanted to use. Seemed like every other sentence I would get stuck, now it does not happen all that more than most people.



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24 Apr 2012, 11:20 pm

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24 Apr 2012, 11:52 pm

I learned to speak when I learned a second language at age eight. I learned speaking and language and communication from learning a second language. Learning a second language was critical to my development. Before that, I lacked communication skills, and I was socially aloof. Afterwards, I became communicative and socially responsive. The difference between learning the first language and learning the second language was that I was taught the second language deliberately and not eggspected to pick up on it on my own. I learned to read easily in both languages, and I learned speaking from reading. Visuals, pictures and printed words, in books matched with auditories, spoken words, in ears taught me to speak. I did not speak well until the past couple of years, when I started creative writing, and creative writing taught me to think in words to eggspress my thinking in pictures, like a translation for communication to others, so I learned speaking from writing too.



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24 Apr 2012, 11:55 pm

I learned to speak at the age of 4. I was able to say certain words before than, but it was when I was 4 that my speaking really started to take off.


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25 Apr 2012, 12:16 am

I was speech delayed when I was young and according to my mother I was very frustrated because I could not tell people what I wanted or what another child did to me or if I needed help about something or even tell them what was upsetting me. Even when I did start talking, I was still unable to tell my mother I was being locked in the bathroom when I am bad and so does my little brother or how it was an accident that I accidentally hurt a girl in my class so it was assumed I did it on purpose. I just remember from a young age I would point to things and say single words or sentences. If I fell down and got hurt and there was blood, I would cry and run to my parents and show them the owie so they can take care of it. Then I be back to playing again after they put a band aid on it.


I needed tons of speech therapy so I could learn to speak. I was four when I started talking and six when I talked correctly and became a big talker. But my verbal IQ was still low.



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25 Apr 2012, 12:16 am

I was just told I learned to speak early and when I learned to talk, I wouldn't shut up. Only problem was I learned to talk without using my tongue. I'd just mouth the words. Thankfully I learned how before school started.

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25 Apr 2012, 6:38 am

I had significant speech delays, but started to gain fluency quickly after I did start using words. I went to speech therapy to correct for some anomaly in the way I pronounced things, I don’t recall very accurately this time period though. I still have the occasional word slip, it manifests in me with the accidental merger of two similar words, as if I start saying one, yet finish the second. Generally if there is a slight difference in the meaning of the words and I really am trying to express something similar to both yet kind of in between. I am rambling…

Right, I would recommend you do expose him to your native language. You are likely more fluent in it, he will learn it if he is exposed to it. Exposure to a second language will only help. I get the impression you are worried about this, I don’t understand why though… But there is not any reason to, he will learn two languages and that is good? There is benefit to learning multiple languages, aside from simply knowing them, in learning more languages, you start learning how languages work, what is common, what is different. You get a more complete understanding of communication. It certainly wouldn’t hurt.



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25 Apr 2012, 7:30 am

I hardly said a word before the age of 3, then one day just started to speak quite fluently. I think I had learned way before I actually started to talk, but perhaps didn't see the point in using it as I had my own thoughts to occupy me. Maybe I hadn't realised the application of speech as a tool.


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25 Apr 2012, 11:37 am

Thank you all for your words of encouragement. I have twin boys, one seems to catch it just like that and other needs a lot of repetition before he could understand that word. So I use english and repeat the words multiple times until he gets it. If I start speaking in my language, yes I will still repeat in my language however it will not be supplemented with any speech therapy. I am a little afraid that he will fall back at school because he will not follow the teacher completely. But I guess I should give this a try and see how that goes