FredOak3 wrote:
I would go freaking bonkers if I couldn't Stim.
My parents tried to stop me when I was younger and I just developed different ones.
It is calming, it sometimes just has to be done or I'll just become so irritated.
And how would parents know that stimming is part of the solution and not part of the problem, unless we tell them?
For example, we have this:
"Practice Guidelines, AAP [American Academy of Pediatrics] Releases Guidelines on identification of Children with autism Spectrum disorders," Carrie Armstrong,
Am Fam Physician, 2008 Dec.
http://www.aafp.org/afp/2008/1201/p1301.html <-- about third down
“REGRESSION
“Approximately 25 to 30 percent of children with ASDs begin to say words but then stop speaking, often between the ages of 15 and 24 months. Regression of skills in children with ASDs may also include loss of gestural communication and social skills. Regression can be gradual or sudden, and it may occur in the setting of subtle preexisting developmental delays or atypical development.”
And I don't know why approximately 1 out of 4 or 1 out of 3 autistic kids stop talking. And I could see how this would scare the sh.t out of a parent.
But, it is a separate issue from stimming, which I really think and feel is generally positive.
For me, it's kind of tension release and/or zen centering and/or refreshing activity which I can then continue with the rest of my day.
I like to squeeze, twist, shake a soft T-shirt as I imagine sports or movie scenes, and sometimes I kind of make sounds of explosions, sometimes I don't. And yes, this is embarrassing. But for the sake of parents and other people, I think it's worth talking about.
I have a college degree, have worked as a retail manager, am unemployed now. And stimming is a positive to my life, not a negative. I also like to talk to myself, and that too is a positive. In fact, I like having the house to myself where I will have it to myself for a while, and that way I can talk to myself, feeling more confident that I won't be overheard.
So, I might stim, do intellectual work, stim, do intellectual work, etc. And I feel the whole session is more productive than if I was trying to stay statue still like I might at work.
I remember in high school, my slightly younger sister experimented with ripping up paper to release stress as she watched TV. (which is probably how she put it into words before anyone really knew anything about the spectrum)
My mother, my sister, and me, all three of us are probably on the spectrum. My father is the odd person out.