Do you get mad at little things but not mad at big problems?

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I get really ticked off at a lot of things - a lot of little things, as well. The smallest things can set me off, like simply stepping on a -drop- of water.

Just last week, my speaker cabinet -severely- broke. It's an expensive repair, and an expensive thing to replace (on my budget). This is the type of speaker cabinet you'd use on stage - very beefy, very loud, and also a very high quality cabinet I put some custom work into, replacing certain components for better ones, investing a lot of money in it over the years I've had it. As a musician who plays in several bands that do paid shows regularly, most of which require me to bring this amplifier to be able to play, and a musician who likes to have a very high quality sound coming from the speakers, with enough power to make people literally feel what I am playing (bass is the main thing in all my bands, but I also do many other instruments and use this cabinet for them) when the location does not have the best sound system (in the venues I play - mostly bars and such), as well as favoring the frequencies which make bass harmonics sound more clear (my originals include mostly bass harmonics). This was something I depended on very heavily with my primary special interest, as well as current primary income source.

The thing is, I don't feel angry at all...

I felt no anger, no disappointment. I can't really explain what I was feeling, just a feeling similar to how it feels when you need to pay a bill or something, something very minor that you do not get mad at at all. I still have not replaced it. I am looking into a possible temporary solution tomorrow, for a weaker and lower quality system to hold me over until I can get another good system.

Do any of you get mad at little things, but then not mad at major things?

I get mad at little things when my life seems out of control.

Yes, and this always perplexes those around me. I will get bent out of shape and shutdown over the TV being turned on too early in the morning (I'm up at this point), but if I lose my job or someone dies...I handle it with "grace".

Same here. I tend to remain calm, even if things go wrong, and especially if I know how to fix it or what to do, but certain small things will aggravate me. These triggers can pile up and result in a meltdown. The worst triggers are the ones I can't control and can't escape.

Sometimes I have little tantrums over little things but not big things and when I get over it I think back and tell myself "I got angry over something stupid like this?"

Same here. I often wandered in the past before I even knew anything about high functioning autism why I'm this way. I rationalized that I somehow need to channel my anxiety this way while keeping my higher stakes away from it. This is obviously false since other people don't seem to do those ridiculous things I do way too often... So here I had an indication something is really "off" with me.

I do. Like if I make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich,and I get peanut butter on the knife I get really upset and I have to remind myself that its just peanut butter and i can wipe it off,no big deal.
but when my old laptop that had a lot of projects and pictures on it broke, I felt nothing. I simply bought a new one.
it makes me wonder, is this an AS thing, or do some people just act calmly in bad situations?

I do. Like if I make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich,and I get peanut butter on the knife I get really upset and I have to remind myself that its just peanut butter and i can wipe it off,no big deal.
but when my old laptop that had a lot of projects and pictures on it broke, I felt nothing. I simply bought a new one.
it makes me wonder, is this an AS thing, or do some people just act calmly in bad situations?

My husband says I get mad at little things but I have noticed I will not get mad at the bigger things most people would be mad or upset about or scared.

Yes, I can relate to this. I get really mad over tiny things, but when someone dies or the like, I don't get mad. I don't know whether in my case it has to do with little vs. big, or more with human vs. technological. Like, I get more mad when a technology fails than when a person is in a bad state, and I get more mad when something online happens (like yesterday I was kickekd off an E-mail list fo rno reason) than when for example my husband is mad. It's not like I care about my online friends more than about my husband, or about my computer more than about my grandparents. Or maybe it is. I don't know.

I get angry at little things like people making jokes about my interests or too many people being in my favorite section in the park, but lately a lot of bad things have been happening in my family and I don't feel anything about it. It makes me feel like I'm a bad person for not getting more emotional about big things like that.

I don't get angry at things, but when it comes to people I believe that sometimes very little things can reveal great issues. So sometimes people think that I got angry over something very insignificant and small when in fact there's a whole story behind it.

No, I get angry at pretty much everything that doesn't go as planned. I tend to have more spontaneous anger outbursts over minor frustrations, though, whereas I tend to have sobbing breakdowns that result from increasing pressure build-up when it comes to big issues.

Yes, especially with deaths, departures, changes in circumstances I do not react to those.
But I might pick up on stupid stuff like semantics, not having access to my special interest, and temperament of others.

Hmm... I can get pretty upset at "big" issues, but I do tend to overreact to small problems. But then again I have a difficult time regulating my emotions.