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I don't really know what to say..

I am not officially diagnosed with ASD but many of my "team" have agreed it's a big possibility.. but now I'm just stuck. I also have bipolar disorder and ADHD and it's all hard to cope with.. I didn't know if any of you here had book recommendations, products, websites etc..
I know I'm not alone, but feelings have always been hard for me, especially in the darker months so I need to find more coping skills and even just names or reasons why one might feel the way they do.. I feel somewhat alone in the matter.. my fiance understands many of my probablys, others not so much so that gets difficult...

I just want to feel peace.. it wasn't this upsetting before.



I am aware this is probably not well put together, but I am having a hard time verbalizing my needs.

is this a work thing?

Do you mean your treatment team of doctors/case workers etc?

I have bi-polar, ADHD and HFA
If you get a therapist or psychologist they can try to help you with coping skills.

Everyone has different coping skills, things that work for one person, may not work for another.
I guess a lot if trial and error, just learning through life.

You mention the "darker months", do you have seasonal affective disorder? I used to live in the North and i had to move South.
I couldn't deal with the cold, snow, i literally wouldn't leave my house let alone my room unless i had to go to the bathroom.
Since i moved down south, i think the sun helps, since sun makes Vitamin D, natural to help fight depression. I still get depressed though.

Sometimes i do art, i draw, sometimes i ride my bike.

Do you find it easier to draw or write down your needs instead of verbalizing them?
Sometimes i can't find the words to express things.. sometimes they never get expressed. I'm an adult and still learning we are always
learning.
Myself, i don't have any set in stone coping mechanisms all the time.. sometimes i just don't know what to do and distract myself if i can.

what do you mean?

He is asking if your stress is work-related.

I was unsure who the "team" was..........I needed some context

I have also been officially diagnosed with ADHD, have been diagnosed as bipolar in the past, and have self-diagnosed with AS. There is a book that is written specifically for ADHDers that might help out a lot. Since AS and ADHD are very similar in how they manifest (or else, they very commonly go hand-in-hand) I would highly recommend it. It explains a whole lot.

You mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid, or Crazy?! (link)

it has a lot of information including coping skills and really helps to explain a lot. I hope it might help you like it did me, or at least help you to understand a little more. And I would love to chat with you if you need someone to talk to

I do have SAD, it make BP and really everything worse.. I was supposed to get a heavy blanket and a light box to help but insurance companies can never be relied on.
I can't move to a warmer location, I hate movie and it triggers so much stress. plus to get warm I'd probably have to leave the state.

I have a new therapist so I don't trust her much yet and don't have anyone to really talk to about this.. the thing is I'm very new to the aspie world, not new to many of them feelings actions.. but the word, what it means for some, what it means for others, hope one responds in certain situations etc.. I feel like an alien, while still knowing what to call myself I don't really get much of it.. nor know how to explain or help others (like my fiance) understand.. I want to understand.. i was usually just made to feel like a freak,

Oh what I meant by team was just old therapist, pdoc, case manager, I haven't discussed it fully with mom and dad but they help however they can.


Not specifically work related stress.. more like Life. from day to day stress..



Thank you for the book recommendation