General life problems and the likelihood of being aspergers.

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Hello, I will be talking about what as been going on in my life and I would like advice on what I should do. So you guys know, I am dyslexic so expect bad grammar and spelling, Sorry.

Just some background knowledge. Well to start of I am 17, Male and from England. My sister was diagnosed as aspergers about 4 years ago now. She was about my age when she found out. She is extremely smart and incredibly good at history and is about go for a masters degree in University. She is quite obviously aspergers, you can just tell by her habits and they way she acts in social situations. Well back to me, I have always prided myself at being good with people. I can read facial expressions very well and in secondary school there was no one that actively disliked me and I have about 5 extremely close friends also I can empathise with people very well. Not to toot my own horn or anything but I just want you to understand my confusion in this matter. People always say autistic's and asperger's people do not have much of an imagination. I don't know if this is true or not but I have heard it around. This is the opposite if anything I have an over active imagination because I am an ENFP and that is the same as my sister. On top of this I always do great at interviews and most people think I'm polite and generally think I am a nice guy. Now this doesn't sound like aspergers to me and it probably wont for a lot of people. On the other hand I have a lot of other traits for someone that is aspergers.

About 1 month ago I started to think that maybe I was aspergers too like my sister is. I thought about it for a while and decided to talk to my mother and my sister about it around the dinner table. When I was talking to them about it. Side note my sister had already told me before I showed a lot of signs of aspergers/austism. I was talking to them about it, they were saying you do sound like you may have aspergers. Just saying I'm not an expert on these kinds of things so I will probably get a lot of things wrong with the technical things with aspergers and autism and please tell if I have made a mistake please. Well back to the story. They explained how I am very sensitive to texutres and the sense of touch. To this day I still can't stand stickers because there is just something about them that just make my skin curl. Most clothes I try on I can not stand because of feel of them which makes clothes shopping quite difficult. I can not stand loud sounds and feel very claustrophobic when it is to loud. I heard something about when some lights start to flicker and some autistic people can notice them when most cant. I remember during a class in secondary school I got a headache from the light constantly flickering and only my friend which as been diagnosed as autistic noticed it. I like having a routine and enjoy being by my self I mean after a week or so I will miss friends and company. When I come back from college I always need to be alone and just listen to music or something for about 30-60 minutes or I get very angry and stressed out. I enjoy just being in my own thoughts and imagination. When I get in a argument which I do quite often because I am very stubborn when it comes to the things I am good at. I am doing a Games Development Course at my college and my friend said what's the point of having a 120hz screen you can only see up to 30 frames per second any more than that and it doesn't make a difference. Of course being me I will always defend my point that we can see further than 120fps. I get dedicated to one subject and that is gaming and I pride myself in knowing a lot about it and understanding a lot about games in generall. Like most people would say quake was the first First Person Shooter but it was actually Wolfenstein 3D not quake. I was having an argument with my friend the other day and he kept on saying I was missing the point of what he was saying I just couldn't understand what he was really saying. I tried to look for it but I could not see what it was. This happens actually quite a lot when I have debates with my sister about something like how the brain works and I end up missing her point and arguing against a point that she had not made. When I go to family gatherings and people that I have not seen in ages I get incredibly nervous like almost sickening nervous. I would avoid going as much as possible. Don't get my wrong I like parties and stuff but generally only with the people I know quite well. I have probably forgotten about a few things as well just saying.

I told my best friend that I might be aspergers and he doesn't believe me and he refuses to believe it. To be fair he doesn't not know really what it is and also I have known this guy since I was 6 and he is basically like a brother to me. I have trouble explaining to my close friends to what it actually is. Does anyone have any tips on how I should explain what it is to people because generally they think high end spectrum of autism when I say it. I would like to tell them what it is but its hard to explain. I'm going to go get a diagnostic test in a couple of days to see weather I am or not. I would just like you guys to give your opinions on this and tell me what you think about the subject.

Thank you for reading this. I would really appreciate the help.

Hello and welcome.

Autism and Asperger's are somewhat vague because you can never be completely sure if you have them or not. Even with an official diagnosis there is no 100% guarantee. Some of the symptoms may be present, while others - completely absent. From you describe, I think there is a reasonable chance that you are an Aspie (keep in mind that I am not an expert - it's just my opinion).

It is good that you explore yourself and try to understand your personality better - this is very helpful. I hope that this forum will help you learn more about Autism/Asperger and help you understand yourself even better. This will make it easier to talk to people about it. You will just have to gather the necessary courage to begin...

Some of the things you describe in your post sound very familiar - I have experienced them in my own life. Being alone with my thoughts and fantasies has been my favorite thing for as long as I can remember. And I am very similar in communication - I appear to be very nice and polite, at least that's what people tell me, but I am always feel a bit scared when talking to them and can't look them in the eyes.


Oh, and by the way, gaming is my special interest too, especially DOS classics from the 1990's (I have a whole collection). If you ever feel a strong need to talk about it with someone - count me in. I will surely enjoy it


P.S. You don't have to apologise about your spelling & grammar - they are pretty good.

I get so annoyed when people say "The human eye can only see 30fps" or something ill-advised and ignorant as that. What do these people know about the human eye, are they a human eye scientists? Have they ever used a 120hz screen?

Anyways haha. I love gaming, I bought a whole bunch of games from the holiday steam sale, fantastic deals there.