General inattentiveness of others?

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For some time I'm pondering about a - maybe silly - question. Is it just my imagination? Is it my age? My AS?

Most of the people in daily life seem so... inattentive to everything. What I mean here, some examples:

Driving, roads crossing, I have right of way. The other driver looks straight into my eyes... and just drives?

Workplace 1: a customer complains that his notebook's battery doesn't work at all. I call the manufacturer, beeing told to do a BIOS upgrade. How can a BIOS work w/o getting any power in the 1st place from the battery (just exclude thinking of any A/C here for the moment)? I mean, w/o working battery you don't have a life BIOS at all - cause and effect?

Workplace 2: a customer has licensed a 3rd party directory software through us. He complains about wrong entries in the directory, telling me we have to care about correcting those wrong data because he has licenced the software via our company?

Workplace 3: a customer complains she can't send or receive mails. Turns out her internet connection isn't working at all, but she blames us - we just configured and sold a PC to her, we're NOT an ISP or mailprovider. Excuse me, is this really real?

I could continue this list for a while...

Point here and question is: is it just me or are people just inclined to NOT thinking before speaking and acting? Non-conscious lifeforms? Or is it me beeing an Aspie? What is wrong, am I just living in a world of mindless drones? Do I expect to much?

And please, this is not about ridiculing or mocking others. I'd like to have your serious opinions / assessment about my question I just asked in the last paragraph.

I'm really a bit lost here...

Edit: corrected typos

I feel the same. There are just too many people who seem to say something before thinking, as if their mouth/tongue works independently from their brain. It seems to be a common thing. I'm used to it though it's still frustrating. They don't seem to feel any shame in doing it. But I think we just have to live with it becaues they won't change for us.

Regarding whether this is due to your (our) AS, I'd say it's possible. We do tend to pay attention to detail and often think carefully and logically.

I've been wondering the same thing. I'm truly amazed at the lack of basic mindfulness and consideration in most people out there.

The easiest way to recognize it is to watch people drive. I've noticed that most drivers do not use their turn signals when they should. It would certainly be advantageous to everyone (including themselves) if they did. And when did just about everyone decide that no signal is needed when exiting a parking lot onto a busy street? Or when in a turn lane? They can't really expect everyone else to be mind readers, or for oncoming motorists to have the street layout memorized--and to be fully awake and aware all at the same time. And what's with all the shameless texters? They're more dangerous than drunk drivers.

I pay attention to these details--all the time. Maybe it's better to be a clod with no self-awareness.

Give me AS any day over that. And yes, it must be an AS thing because it seems to know no age limits.

In Australia (unless the laws have changed), once you are in a turning lane, you are not required by law to indicate.

I often notice, though, that drivers tend to switch off their brains when it comes to the purpose of the indicator. So often I see someone changing lanes, and turning on the indicator when they are already at least halfway through the change. It's a lazy afterthought and no longer useful. Experienced drivers tend to go into autopilot and forget to consider the purposes of their actions. I'd say the same phenomenon occurs with many things in life.