Is indecisiveness common amongst aspies?

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22 Mar 2013, 1:17 pm

In a work situation I have no problem but personally, I dither for ages.



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22 Mar 2013, 1:46 pm

I am like Hamlet.



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22 Mar 2013, 2:57 pm

I am also very indecisive but for different reasons with different things. I'll try to explain to see if anyone can relate, it may be the aspergers.

As I am very aware that I do not take in as much as other people with peoples motives and body language, I constantly seek reassurance from friends as to whether a decision is right. It is when with I have to deal with another human being, whether it be a doctor, the phone company or any of lifes small things. It is hard to explain but there are so many examples.

Another reason I get reassurance for smaller things or the reason I ask if it is a good decision and feel messed up if I dont ask is because I have no self confidence in my own judgement and ability. Maybe this is partly influenced by knowing I have a development disorder.

Anyway, thanks for listening.



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22 Mar 2013, 3:04 pm

Yes terribly. To the point where I can spend 15 minutes on deciding wether I´m gonna have the vanilla tea or the caramel tea.
Things like that.



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22 Mar 2013, 3:14 pm

I am very indecisive. Making decisions is difficult, and it takes forever.


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22 Mar 2013, 4:05 pm

Yes. I mean... no? I mean... uh... come back to me.



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22 Mar 2013, 4:57 pm

Feels like such a responsibility, so many potential repercussions- no matter ther size of the decision. it can take me months to decide if I really want something. And if it is a decision that involves someone else, forget it!



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22 Mar 2013, 10:43 pm

I can identify with this, as well, but only when it comes to on-the-spot decisions when being faced with new stimuli. I think it has to do with slow processing speed. However, when I finally process everything in my mind in its entirety, it doesn't take me long to decide upon a course of action.


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22 Mar 2013, 11:14 pm

Very indecisive at times...at least until I make my mind up. Once I do though I tend to be very good at committing to something I have decided to do or at standing by my decision. Until I change my mind that is...then I have to decide what I am going to do etc all over again.

Oh dear god.



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22 Mar 2013, 11:18 pm

to the point of being crippled by it



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23 Mar 2013, 12:29 am

GiantHockeyFan wrote:
what's worse I always regretted my decision.


I always regret the decisions I make too. I have buyer's remorse over pretty much every purchase I've ever made.



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23 Mar 2013, 12:56 am

luckily for me, the buyer's remorse morphed into something called experience.



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23 Mar 2013, 3:44 am

auntblabby wrote:
luckily for me, the buyer's remorse morphed into something called experience.


Unluckily for me, I have to make the same mistake over and over again before the lesson sticks...



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23 Mar 2013, 4:40 am

Sometimes. It really depends upon how much is on my mind at the time.


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23 Mar 2013, 3:50 pm

I am always indecisive. And it bothers my parents and sibling a lot.



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23 Mar 2013, 4:04 pm

I'm extremely indecisive; I mean, I can't even walk into a shop, and decide what chocolate bar I should pick up and buy- for me, decisions like this always take lots of my time and energy, which I spend in deep thought.

...I read somewhere that's it's to do with "executive dysfunction".


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