Dealing with retiring parents

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My dad is retiring next year, and he's been going on about it. I think that he's retiring a bit early and just really wants to get out, but at 40% of his salary, he's expecting me to do something, but I'm not sure what, and I'm kinda just... eh. Like, I understand I'm sure you guys understand. He gets pretty pissed too when I tell him that he's being a bit unreasonable in terms of wanting to retire early. Have you guys had any experience with that?

Both my father and my stepmother are going to retire in the next year or so. They are doing so at the expected age, though my father had me later in life, so I am only eighteen at the moment. Granted, I will soon be out of the house and going on to college, but I still worry about being a burden unto them; I applied for a campus job with my honors college acceptance forum, but, especially as I sent the form at the last second possible, that job is not guaranteed.

It may actually be a good thing that your father is retiring-- working for too long may permanently damage his mind and body in a way that would ruin the quality of his elderly life, especially if he works a job that is particularly stressful or is easily affected by stress.

Is their any skill that you have that may be marketable in any capacity? For example. if you understand the mechanics and grammar of English very well, you can proofread papers for highschool/college students, who are often willing to pay, and perhaps even for businesses and newspaper. Much of this can be done from the comfort of your own home, I believe. It may be of benefit for you to ask around (or, if communication is comfortable for you, ask your dad to ask around) and see what people need help with and are willing to pay for. There is a high probability that somebody will have a need that you can fill.

If you are affected in a way that prohibits you from earning any sort of income, you may be able to apply for disability, especially if their is no other form of income for the family.

In any instance, best of luck and well-being to you and your father.

Well I'm in my late 20s, we both have well-paying jobs; he's actually a PhD Physicist, and I'm a software engineer. I guess it's a bit hard for me to empathize. But that is a good idea, maybe finding something for him to do.

Why not ask him what he expects of you when he retires.
If you are working, money wouldn't be an issue.
Why do you want him to continue working if he is ready to retire?

It's absolutely none of your business when he retires and to tell him you think he's being unreasonable to retire when he wants to and can is downright rude. I also wonder if the reason you don't want him to retire now is because he is expecting you to do something. He's raised you and doesn't owe you anything else, and he deserves to spend this time of his life the way he wants to if he can afford to.

It kind of is if you live with someone, they decide to retire early without consulting you, while also expecting you to change your life - but without bothering to tell you what you're supposed to do.

My mother retired early, she would never have done so without discussing this with my father, with whom she lives. That kind of decision affects who you live with and are close to, it's only fair to discuss it, and most importantly how it will affect others, with the people directly affected by the change.

To the OP - why not ask your father what he expects from you?

Agree w/ OliveOilMom.