qawer wrote:
I just had a visit to a company. I'm considering applying for a job there.
I noticed how much social skills mean in a job situation. It's of HUGE importance! Your actual skills necessary to do the job are important too, but if you don't have social skills, you won't get very far.
It seems like you as an Aspie can fit in better in the neurotypical environment if you:
(1) Never let anything hurt you
(2) Keep trying, even when you fail
(3) Get back, even when you've had a major setback
It's like an animal that keeps trying, no matter if it loses a leg or someone tries to hurt it. It should just keep trying no matter what.
It's like you should never have a lower bound for when you won't continue anymore. Only death can stop you.
Is confidence related to this thinking style/behaviour?
1,2 and 3 are basic 'must do's ' no matter if you are NT or AS or whatever. That's how you're supposed to handle life.
From personal experience I can tell you that the social issues at work are not from confidence (or lack of) but rather our irritating little problem of lacking the desire/want/will to become a part of social networks.
In most jobs, particularly office based ones, this is literally the key to going up the ladder. You can be really good at your job but if you're not networked with the right people you will always be passed up for promotions. Worse even, since you do get a raise every year or so the longer you stay in your position the more you will earn... and when it reaches a level that you are earning noticeably more than other, newer hires you become a liability to the company and will be weeded out to give your position to a less costly new hire.
Force yourself you network even if its poorly done. Just having a weak link plus your good job performance will help you immensely.