Aspie Entitlement Syndrome

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I actually agree with the OP. I am not sure why it struck a nerve with lot of posters. Either because they are guilty or misunderstood and if the post doesn't describe you, then obviously he wasn't talked about you so I still don't understand why people are taking offense. I have been on benefits and I am not even a least bit offended. I have worked hard to not rely on Social Security but then felt punished for it and can understand now why some people would prefer to stay on it. The system is broken and they need to be on it to survive. Even NTs are forced to rely on it and are forced to stay on it than trying to get off because of the way things are. Some people just slip in the gray and the system is so black and white so people find loops to stay on it like cutting back their hours or quitting their job and get a new one so they aren't making too much because they don't make enough to survive without qualifying for food stamps let's say but yet can live just fine if they have them so they can feed their family.

There was a poster here who wrote how when he once worked in a restaurant, there was this woman that worked there and she was on medicaid and she couldn't work more hours or get paid too much because she didn't want to lose her medicaid. She had to be on it so she could afford her medicine for her Bipolar and she wouldn't be able to afford it with full time work and without her medicine, she would be too disabled to work because of her illness. So she was very functional and not disabled when medicated but wouldn't be able to afford the medicine without medicaid, even with full time so she was forced to live off the system to be functional so she can work. That just shows how broken the system is. I would assume the OP isn't talking about this person either.

But lets just say I got less judgmental about people who want to rely on Social Security and don't want to get off it or who worry about losing their wages and being cut from it if they make too much money.

I think in ways normal people struggle more than people with disabilities because we automatically qualify for services like medicaid and there are all these services that are for people with disabilities and I was asking my husband one day is this really fair to the normal people? Why are our lives made easier and normal people have to struggle more? We have services for people with disabilities that give them jobs and employ them and normal people have to suffer who can't find a job due to the economy and we get to go to voc rehab or whatever for work and they don't. How fair is that? We even get free grants and normal people have to pay it back and we don't. My husband told me it's harder for us than normal people and we are the first to be laid off from work and it's harder for us to live in the world than normal people and it's harder for us to find work than normal people so that is why we have all these services for people with disabilities.

And sometimes I do feel I am not trying hard enough and I am finding the easy way out. I felt that way in high school too and middle school when I was accepting extra help in school so I wasn't missing any school work or flunking any assignments and having that happening would mean getting held back and having work turned in late.

I'm not offended, I simply think the OP is wrong.

I do not understand why so many people perceive "disagreement" as "offense." It seems to be a way to trivialize what others might say, by characterizing it as an emotional reaction rather than as an informed opinion.

The point of disability is that all else being equal a person with disabilities is going to struggle more than a person without. The notion that so-called "normal people" struggle more makes literally no sense.

This is not to say that no one struggles, or that some people who are not disabled never have struggles that may be harder than those with disabilities. Rather, it is to say that if you have two people in similar circumstances, the one with disabilities is likely to struggle more.

One of the common struggles many people with disabilities face is coming under hostile scrutiny and criticism, for supposedly not trying hard enough, giving up, leeching, freeloading, being lazy, That's what the OP is doing, especially on the past couple of pages.

He didn't just change the title, he even reworded the post itself, which made some of the posts on the first four pages suddenly seem like over the top and illogical reactions. This is just plain devious full stop, if you realise you've said something wrong then man up and admit it - don't try to hide your mistakes by erasing them! The minute he did this I lost the last 10% of possible respect I might have had about him (I lost the other 90% from his narcissist anti-Asperger rants on other threads).

He is a hypocrite by claiming people should not ask for help, as that is 'entitlement' yet he suggests they go out and mug rich people instead which is an even worse form of 'entitlement' The idea that it is somehow OK to rob someone simply because they have more money than you is morally repugnant!

His claims that a high proportion of ASD males are sexually deviant and rapists is just too offensive to even reply to.

And His claim that people with bad genetics should not be allowed to breed is just plain nazism full stop.

I'm done with this thread

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Autistic dad to an autistic boy and loving it - its always fun in our house

I have Autism. My communication difficulties mean that I sometimes get words wrong, that what I mean is not what comes out.

I don't know any adult who is on the autism spectrum and demands 'free things'... what do you mean by 'free things' anyway?

I have to disagree with this observation (post topic) - my life has been a journey of self-improvement. I have been shaving down the rough edges and working on whatever I notice people find irritating about me.

Over the years I've created lists of things I don't like about myself, things other people have told me, and things that people do in general that are more "normal". It has helped immensely. I hit a roadblock recently in my work life, so I'm now back in therapy, on meds...I'm also in the process of getting a diagnosis or non-diagnosis (mild Aspie or anxiety, or both).

Perhaps there is a perception that people with ASD are not self-aware. Maybe it depends on where you are on the spectrum? Or the quality of therapy received, or not? Not sure.

If you had actually read any of my other posts you would have found out that I am from one of those countries that actually has a functioning social security system, and on top of that a fair healthcare system while still not being communists, but for people like you for whom even the slightest move into a more socialist direction equals the end of days, this will surely be something that is quite hard to understand.

There are a lot of options in-between communism and capitalism, and having the strong help the weak out, so they can start supporting the weak once they have become stronger themselves, is not at all something to be scared of.

Your views are rather simplistic and old fashioned and not in a good way.