I sleep on the sofa / stay up all night? Aspie thing or?

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07 May 2013, 11:07 pm

HI

I read in one of the books i read up on Asperger's in Love or something like that that in a relationship with an Aspie Guy you would have to make it ok for yourself to realize that sometimes he will sleep on the couch and would continue to do this throughout the course of the relationship

I am just wondering if anyone has this experience with yourself and if you are a partner - your partner?

I really don't think i did this before the onset of computers on the internet, but i've got worse in time and it seems like at least once a week - probably usually twice i'm up half the night sleeping on the sofa or floor

I really would love to know if this is an Aspie thing



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07 May 2013, 11:20 pm

My NT husband sleeps on the couch sometimes, even when we aren't arguing. ;-) He sometimes falls asleep watching tv and so he sleeps there. He has also had trouble falling asleep sometimes and turns completely upside down in the bed. Head goes where the feet goes and vice versa. If that doesn't work, he gets on the floor. Then the couch. Then just turns the coffee on and sits up and watches tv.

I have trouble sleeping sometimes now because of perimenopausal hormones, but I like to stay in the bed. I have AS. Well, except for that one time a few years ago when we had the old couch that was wider and much more comfortable to lay on. I had been sick with bronchitis so I slept on the couch so DH wouldn't catch it and so I'd have all my meds and everything right there on the coffee table by me and could turn the tv on if I woke up. The couch was so comfortable that I actually stayed on it for three or four days after I got better. The dogs eventually tore up the fabric and shredded the cushions. I miss that couch.


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07 May 2013, 11:41 pm

No, it's a "trouble with sleep" thing.

Which many NTs as well as many on the autistic spectrum sadly experience.



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08 May 2013, 3:08 am

Last night I couldn't sleep, stayed on the computer until 2:30am and then fell asleep on the sofa.

The staying up part is probably due to the fact we aspies tend to have a more imaginative mind which does seem to stay active during the darkened nights, doesn't really help knowing that some people actually suffer from certain sleep disorders also. I suffer from short-term insomina and nights are just great! :roll:



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08 May 2013, 4:30 am

I sleep on a sofa or an easy chair at least as often as in a bed. Most of the time I make it to bed, it is because I woke up on the sofa or easy chair to go to the bathroom and then went to the bedroom instead of back to the sofa or easy chair.



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08 May 2013, 5:19 am

eric76 wrote:
I sleep on a sofa or an easy chair at least as often as in a bed.

For me, the sofa seems to provide more alternative sleeping positions, with knee braced against the back of sofa for better back support, etc. I CAN sleep comfortably in a bed when I'm away from home, but at home the sofa is my first choice.



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08 May 2013, 5:36 am

For the last 5 or so years I've been mostly sleeping on a bean bag (on the carpet). I'd say I sleep on it 80% of the times because it's so much more comfortable. I tend to want to sleep on my stomach with my head significantly higher than the legs, with my lower back a bit curling and with my arms holding the pillow or the bean bag itself. It's easy to change the shape of the bean bag and that allows me to have the most comfortable position.

I got rid of my bed because I don't use it. So I have no proper bed.

But I don't think it's AS/autism-related.



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08 May 2013, 5:39 am

I often sleep on the sofa, sometimes I just feel I can relax there more - less chance of being disturbed, sometime I just can't sleep next to my boyfriend either because of his sleep noises or the fact he is just there. It's nothing to do with computers if I am awake I am usually reading. He often sleeps on the sofa too just because he became comfortable or got absorbed in something and didn't want to disturb me at 6:00am.



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08 May 2013, 6:07 am

Well, it might be an Aspie thing if he always has to sleep on the couch. That would be the adherence to routines and sameness kind of thing. I absolutely can not sleep anywhere else other than my own bed.

When it comes to plains, trains, automobiles, hotels, someone's house, camping etc. The only way I can get to sleep in any of those situations is if a take a really good sleep aid.



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08 May 2013, 1:03 pm

If you read that in a book about aspergers- its a rather inane passage- without any relevence to the subject.

Nt's fall asleep in front of the TV on coaches, or fall asleep with rock radio blaring all of the time in my experience.



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08 May 2013, 1:04 pm

If you read that in a book about aspergers- its a rather inane passage- without any relevence to the subject.

Nt's fall asleep in front of the TV on coaches, or fall asleep with rock radio blaring all of the time in my experience.

I occasionally do that to. But mostly not. Like everyone else pretty much.



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08 May 2013, 6:52 pm

I have a couch instead of a bed. I also had pretty bad insomnia until I started taking meds for it, and even now my sleep schedule is very strange. I am not sure if this is because I have Autism, or if it is irrelevent.



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08 May 2013, 6:59 pm

No harm in sleeping on the couch sometimes, if that's the best way for you to get a good night's rest. Some people just sleep better when they aren't being constantly woken up by a bedmate's slight movements and soft sounds. Better to be well-rested and able to snuggle with your spouse properly, than be half-asleep and exhausted all the time. Some couples even have separate beds, or separate bedrooms, like one master bedroom to hang out together in plus a little bedroom for the light sleeper to get to sleep properly. There shouldn't be any blame or guilt in that kind of an arrangement. It's just practical. Anyway, being fast asleep isn't really that much of a social activity. You can always hang out together when you're both awake, and I bet it's more fun when you're actually awake and not groggy from poor quality sleep.


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08 May 2013, 11:41 pm

I tend to sleep on the couch. I just don't like to wake my wife up as she has to be up early. Well that's how it started , it can soon become the norm . When I do go to bed these days I tend to just lay there until I eventually head back to the couch.

I don't usually sleep until very late though if at all . It's 5 40 am now and I am still wide awake even though I got up at 6 am yesterday



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15 Jul 2013, 7:06 pm

I've been sleeping on the couch every night for several years now. I can't get comfortable in a bed, it's too flat or something. I also have to fall asleep with the tv on or else I'm laying there thinking about things and hearing sounds that my house makes. I asked an ASD specialist about it and he said that he found it to be the norm for us to want to sleep on a couch or something else besides a bed because of different pressure points or something and it calms us. I might be remembering what he said wrong but it sounded good to me.



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16 Jul 2013, 3:17 am

greentigress wrote:
HI

I read in one of the books i read up on Asperger's in Love or something like that that in a relationship with an Aspie Guy you would have to make it ok for yourself to realize that sometimes he will sleep on the couch and would continue to do this throughout the course of the relationship

I am just wondering if anyone has this experience with yourself and if you are a partner - your partner?

I really don't think i did this before the onset of computers on the internet, but i've got worse in time and it seems like at least once a week - probably usually twice i'm up half the night sleeping on the sofa or floor

I really would love to know if this is an Aspie thing


I read in at least one thread on here that this is very common Aspie behaviour. Even if NTs do it too it may be for very different reasons. I sleep on the sofa and I can't make myself sleep in my bed at the moment, I've often had a problem with this whether I've had trouble sleeping or not, and it's definitely in my case, related to being an Aspie. I can't even put into words exactly why I sleep on the sofa, but it's almost a fixation.


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