Do female Aspies prefer male company over female?

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29 Oct 2013, 5:43 pm

If so, why?



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29 Oct 2013, 6:06 pm

Personally, I do. Guys tend to be more straightforward to deal with and I just click with them better.


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29 Oct 2013, 6:17 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:
Personally, I do. Guys tend to be more straightforward to deal with and I just click with them better.

Me too.
Also, there have been studies (I saw them a couple of years ago and I'd link to them, but you can look them up) that show that men speak more to communicate while women speak mainly to connect. This makes it easier on the female aspie, I think.


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29 Oct 2013, 6:36 pm

"Typical NT girls" conversation are for me hard to follow sometimes, so to my experience they use more "hidden" language, that is harder to recognize for me. Additional I dont share much interests with girls, so either I am bored or others are bored. :(



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29 Oct 2013, 6:40 pm

Yea. I can't be having too many feelings, although when I've not had any girlfriends for a while, I do start to miss their company, guys can be very abrasive and in large doses start to grate on one's sensibilities.



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29 Oct 2013, 6:53 pm

I've always found it very hard to be friends with other women...the agendas are usually different - and the subtle social signals make no sense to me. With men, one can be honest friends, unless of course they are set on sex...but I never had much trouble ignoring those signals if I did not want their sexual attentions, and once they 'got over that', if they really wanted to be friends, it was great. A lot of the time however, they would ask me about 'what did their girlfriends really mean by 'blah blah blah'...the joke was, I often hadn't a clue either! All I could do was commiserate and listen...



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29 Oct 2013, 7:00 pm

Personally, I do. Guys tend to be more straightforward to deal with and I just click with them better. [that's a quote, don't know how to do the thing]
^this, I also get along with socially awkward girls though. I have been learning to make friends the past year.



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29 Oct 2013, 7:05 pm

Yes. Although in retrospect I'm not sure if guys liked hanging out with me just because they wanted to get in my pants. At the time, I really did think that they thought X, Y and Z about me.



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29 Oct 2013, 7:22 pm

chicks talk about their hair and makeup and talk badly about other girls behind their back. I don't wanna hear that stuff.

Ima guy. I enjoy zombies and explosions and epic battle scenes. Thank the lord ima dude.



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29 Oct 2013, 7:27 pm

Codyrules37 wrote:
chicks talk about their hair and makeup and talk badly about other girls behind their back. I don't wanna hear that stuff.

Ima guy. I enjoy zombies and explosions and epic battle scenes. Thank the lord ima dude.

I wish people wouldn't gossip. It's sad. :cry:



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29 Oct 2013, 7:54 pm

I have three sisters and a supportive mom, no brothers, and an alcoholic distant dad. women are more familiar and I prefer them. I am married to a not - traditionally - masculine guy.



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29 Oct 2013, 8:11 pm

I find it a lot easier to be friends with NT men. They tend to say what they think (no reading between the lines to negotiate) and don't expect me to want to chat about tv programmes, fashion, celebrities, makeup etc - all topics on which I'm clueless. Disclaimer: I live in a remote rural area, and have been unable to socialise with women who appear to be wired the same way as me.



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29 Oct 2013, 8:17 pm

I don't like gossiping either.



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29 Oct 2013, 10:34 pm

I've always found men easier to talk to. I used to have interesting conversations with my father but my mother just talked to manipulate.



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29 Oct 2013, 10:37 pm

leafplant wrote:
Yea. I can't be having too many feelings.


That is so interesting. Why do you say that? You are really hitting on something I am trying to understand about a friend.

I guess I am that typical NT girl that loves talking about feelings etc. but I have a friend who seems uncomfortable with that. She is going through a difficult time and I understand bc I went through the same thing. I try to be uplifting etc. and the times I have shared my feelings with her or said nice things (probably touchy feely) (this was via email) she has told me to either hold back from expressing my thoughts and more recently said you can't tell me these things and I am not sure why.

Maybe you can shed some light.