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steppinthrax
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12 Nov 2013, 11:50 am

I have been married for 10 years now. I'm pretty sure my wife is neurotypical. I'm 31 yo male and have 2 children. Just curious. When you got married and how long have you been married. I tend to find a lot of challenges.



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12 Nov 2013, 12:08 pm

I am married too, 7 years and 3 children. Challenges here as well.



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12 Nov 2013, 12:09 pm

Married three months ago, been with my partner for 14 years, living together since 12 years. First infant on the way. ^^

I think it was easier that way, because of us having the opportunity to fully focus on the challenges you speak of, and with the knowledge to decide freely the way we decided. While with kids, it sounds much harder.



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12 Nov 2013, 12:16 pm

My husband and I have been married for 8 years. We have 2 children.



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12 Nov 2013, 12:31 pm

I have been married to a wonderful NT woman for nearly 30 years. We have 2 children.

There are certainly challenges.



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12 Nov 2013, 12:49 pm

Married a little over 51 years now. My NT wife and I have two children. Challenges? Always! But our personalities kind of "spooned" and it's worked out well. :)



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12 Nov 2013, 12:55 pm

ZenDen wrote:
Married a little over 51 years now. My NT wife and I have two children. Challenges? Always! But our personalities kind of "spooned" and it's worked out well. :)


That's really cool. I'm hoping it will go that way for us. How long did it take before you "spooned"?



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12 Nov 2013, 1:09 pm

18 years, no children between us. {he has previous children, they didn't live with us}. We married long before I found out about my aspietude. He has personality traits that mesh nicely with mine, but he's NT.


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12 Nov 2013, 1:52 pm

Met up 5 years ago. Lived together for 3. Engaged 2 years ago. He's probably Aspie too but never been diagnosed. Challenges yes plenty but it's what makes life interesting. Also have a 3 year old daughter who is being diagnosed with Autism at the moment.



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12 Nov 2013, 2:07 pm

Married 22 years to an NT wife. Two kids one NT the other AS, both are boys and yes my wife feels outnumbered. But she's a good sport about it.


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12 Nov 2013, 2:11 pm

Together 15 years as of last month. Married for 12. Four kids-- DD12, DS6, DD4, DD1. All the girls are currently believed to be NT or at most BAP. We're pretty sure DS is on the spectrum.

Hubby might or might not be truly NT, but he's definitely not an ASDer. Perhaps a touch of ADHD, though.

We do OK as long as we are just who we are.

When he gets off on an insecurity/perfectionism/ego trip, or when I get off on a Broken Neurotypical Syndrome trip or start catastrophizing over the boy, well, s**t kind of sort of really hits the fan around here.

For both our sakes, not to mention the kids, I really need to get back to liking and having some faith in my Aspie self (and STAY THERE, instead of this vacillating crap I've been doing for the last year). From that point of view, I can deal with pretty much everything. But if I don't stop this business of acting like my Grandma, we're going to be up the creek with a tennis racket paddle.


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12 Nov 2013, 3:33 pm

I am married to an incredible man.



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12 Nov 2013, 3:57 pm

My wife and I have been married 24 years this month. We have two sons. We dated nearly 7 years before we got married. We have a great marriage.


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12 Nov 2013, 6:22 pm

superluminary wrote:
ZenDen wrote:
Married a little over 51 years now. My NT wife and I have two children. Challenges? Always! But our personalities kind of "spooned" and it's worked out well. :)


That's really cool. I'm hoping it will go that way for us. How long did it take before you "spooned"?


I'm not sure.
It happened gradually, without any pre-planning and we didn't even notice we had an "arrangement" for years. As we sorted out responsibilities neither of us were committed to rigid roll models and neither of us were too proud not to let each other know if we needed help; it just grew that way. :D

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13 Nov 2013, 12:03 am

Me = undiagnosed aspie (reputation for being annoying)
wife = NT (ultra patient)
Child = HFA
Marriage = 10 yrs now



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13 Nov 2013, 12:45 am

I have been with the greatest fiancee for nearly ten years. The relationship is so good that we may not take the risk of destroying it with marriage.