Unintentional Glaring/Death Staring?

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When I walk into a room, apparently I make an angry expression when I'm just looking at who's there. I don't even notice I'm doing it. People commented on it, wondering why I was annoyed at them, and I couldn't really explain . Now that I know I have AS and I've read up on it, I think I get it now. It's just me processing who's in the room, working out whether I know them or not, and if I like them. It unnerves people though, and I can't help doing it.

Has anybody else had a similar experience?

My face does the same thing, except apparently, I look depressed all the time instead of irritated. If I had a nickel for every time someone asked me "what's wrong?" when I was just staring into space, I'd be rich. I dunno if this is an aspie thing or not, though; I've never really thought about it.

Why so...serious?

My son told me sometimes I stare like an angry turtle.

I get this all of the time. I'm usually just in deep thought about something, I'm not angry. Actually, people asking me this so often has made me quite self-conscious. I don't know why people have to assume I'm not okay, or that I come off as a snob because I convey a certain look and tone that I don't know how to change. And I do struggle with depression, so sometimes I'm lost in deep thoughts about too many perplexing life "things". I just don't get why people have to call attention to it.

Yeah, I looked pissed off all the time. I think I get so wrapped up in whatever I'm thinking about that I don't realize what's going on on my face, or how other people will react. So I startle them.

I actually walk into rooms where there are mirrors, catch sight of my reflection and think "Geez, what are you so cheesed off about?"

sometimes my eyes glaze over, so i have the chance to look at people when theyre talking, im actually not focusing on them so i can understand them better, but if i need to look at them, in the eye specifically, i tend to stare, and cant understand them anymore.

I do this too. I use it to my advantage to keep people away from me.

i also get this, and i have a theory as to why:

neurotypical sassume happy people to show that, with a smile and some "glow" (whatever that means) on their face.
due to this assumption, the absence of those signals "must" mean that the person is unhappy or grumpy; basically, not having a visible emotion is the same as a negative emotion, in their eyes

People are always telling me to cheer up even when I am enjoying myself.

I am asked if I look angry or sad a lot even if I am not being. I mean, I am angry a lot of the time, but even when I am not I am asked if I am.
People start imagining my expression as a "death glare" after they hear the music I listen to. Uhm, people's imagination

I get the "what's wrong" when there is nothing wrong fairly often.

I do this frequently, usually when trying to take in everything in the room I've just entered. It reminds me of a YouTube video that someone posted on here a few months ago (contains some obscenity).

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3v98CPXNiSk[/youtube]