"Wrong Planet" feeling = "Always alone"?

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I just remembered a conversation I had with my therapist a long time ago. (I think even the therapist has forgotten it and I'm bringing it up this coming week.)

It'd struck me one day that I always had this subliminal feeling that I was "always alone".

There could be a room full of people, but that basic, underlying feeling would still be there.

Does that sound like another way of the "I was born on the wrong planet" feeling being expressed or realized?

I am never lonely when I am alone. I am always severely lonely in company. I am very aware when around others that I am not among them, only next to them. I am a parahuman.

I think so. I believe the idea is that, rather than being on a planet with different people, it's more about being on a planet where it's harder for you to connect with people. So in that sense, it's more like that you have the subliminal feeling of being alone because you find it hard to connect with others, no matter how many of them there are.

Have always felt detached and separate from everyone and everything.
So yeah i guess like if i was visiting an alien planet.

My goal for myself is to try to find a way to be on this planet with the other people that inhabit it that I can tolerate and so can they. I can't tell reading your posts whether feeling always alone is something you identify as true for you and fine, or true for you and not fine. But I get the impression that right now, it would be a good thing, as for quite a few at WR, to be different and alone, Sethno, from your perspective, for you. Have you figured out how much you want to separate from others and how much you want to be integrated more?

In real life I definitely feel like an alien that's landed on the wrong planet, and I'm very different from everyone else I meet. But here on WP, I feel completely normal and average, and that I've found 'my kind'.

As for loneliness, I prefer being solitary, and I don't want to 'bond' with anyone on a personal level (even here on the forum). But I think I'm unusual in that regard, and most people on here do seem to want to connect with others in a meaningful way.

[EDIT:] To answer your question – yes, I think your description of feeling alone in a group of people is essentially the same as the 'wrong planet' concept.

I always feel alone even in company.

I once had an audio tape from a therapist, wherein he made the point that a feeling of aloneness is at the core of human experience, and that what matters is what I do with it.

I don't know how true that is, or is not, but pondering that thought is sometimes helpful to me when I'm having an episode of feeling too alone.

Many NTs feel basically alone, too. Even extroverts. I think it might be a human universal that we as autistics mistake for being unique to us, simply because we are in a minority group.

If you never feel alone, you're probably in the minority--and probably a stable introvert who enjoys solitude.

Idk. Maybe we are all aliens and are given our own planet on our 22nd Birthday. In which case this is my planet and my NTs and you all need to find your own. However, I don't mind you pitching your tents out back until the next shuttle arrives.