Jealous sister

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In the past few year relations with my sister have got more and more difficult, she is very very self motivated and self centred to the point my family find it difficult to deal with her stayin in our house. I've been hospitalised or various things over the years and if I've been I'll she attention seeks like nothing else but she also will not accept me and my abilities. She either treats me like I'm very stupid or she tries to be my mum and tell me what to do even though eighteen in a few weeks. The worst thing Is when I lose it with her she goes all vulnerable and upset making me feel guilty! Even though she really is a bully. The thing that astounds me is she volunteers with autistic kids- and speaks of them as weirdos- this doesn't make sense, she makes my life a Misery most of the time and its not fair. I love her bit I would love her not to be living with me. Does anyone else have a sibling that is jealous of the attention you get, or ones that treat you like scum?

My sister treated me like scum. She's been out of my life since 1991, and good riddance. People generally talk about your parents' influence on your developing psychology, for the good or the bad of it. But I feel that my sister played an even larger role in causing me emotional damage I never really got over, even with therapy years ago.

I don't love her at all and I'm glad I never have to deal with her again, but I do wish I'd had a decent sister. I felt no love from her ever.

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Even though I believe my sister is an Aspie herself, she enjoys bullying me "just because." Just today, my sister threatened to have me arrested if I didn't stop my meltdown.

it sounds like a support group for siblings of autistic individuals woud help her,might be worth having a look around for one for her.

it is very common for the siblings of us to feel very jealous and resentful of the so called attention we recieve for having additional needs and disabilities, am LFA and have a sister who is four years older than self.
a lot of people-not just youngsters are unable to see the reasons why we need more attention,they can only see the end result,they dont realise how difficult our lives are.
mine was incredibly spiteful, evil, resentful and bullyish throughout whole life up till she moved out and KoR/self was forced into an ID institution.
we get on like friends now but even in her twenties she still was very jealous, for example she was very resentful of the fact am on high rate DLA [life awards of high rate care and high rate mobility] because it allows self to have a new car every three years under the motability scheme-she is only able to afford older model cars,if it was own choice woud keep the same car forever but they change it every three years due to how much money they lose when it comes to selling on older cars, but she doesnt ever choose to think how without that car woud be housebound with no quality of life due to the severe challenges that face with LFA and ID.

am not a pyschic obviously but do think will have a similar outcome-that own sister will grow up a bit once she moves out and get a bit of life experience,thats exactly what she needs to make her humble and respectful of others.

My sister is more like "I like you, but annoying you guys (me and my brother) is sometimes acceptable." She has a few autistic traits and probably has the worst anxiety in the family, but I like being around her.

My sister and I have always been treated equally, so there was no reason for her to be jealous, however, when we were younger she says she used to envy my academic and reading skills (she has dyslexia and ADHD so school was hard for her, but she's doing better now.) I think she is embarrassed and/or annoyed by some of my behaviour because she sometimes tries to give me impromptu social skills lessons (which I am appreciative of), and will sometimes laugh in that humiliated "I'm trying to pretend this is funny" way when I do something awkward, like last week when I apparently invaded this family's space while trying to get to my locker at the pool (my sister and her friend were just standing around and I didn't realise they were waiting for the other people to finsh.)