Moving halfway across the country

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So ive just moved from London England to Birmingham (the North). I've not done well with the change at all, at all but im settling in a little now.My uncle has lots of socialising family and perhaps work scheduled which doesn't give me time to get my bearings at all. It's all a little unreal and I feel vaguely sick. Anyone have any recommendations on how to deal with this kind of change?

I have done this several times over the last few years, and we are in the process of moving again, this time about 2500 miles, literally from one part of the US (New Mexico) to New York, and even though its a move I want to make it still stresses me out. What helps me is to get to know the area im moving to very well before you arrive or at least shortly after you get there. Find out where the services you need are. For me this means finding the local library and coffee shops... try to have fun. Good luck!

As the other responder has said, explore the local area and find out where everything is that you will need or which interests you. Look the are up online, and also walk around on foot. Find out as much about the place as possible, not just for practical reasons but also maybe a little local history and facts. Learning about the local history can make you feel more connected to a place, because you are finding out insider knowledge, like where it got its name from, etc.

Also if you go walking around, you will get some alone time even though out in public.

Thankyou I have the local area cached on google maps and I have plans to explore. My uncle has alot planned though. I look forward to seeing family, but im really concerned that im going to burn out. My uncle believes that my social issues are a result of cowardice so he may not take no for an answer and he is really assertive.

I need to lay ground rulles. Family visits twice a week. Working at the bakery twice a week. Ask me before arranging social events. I dont know how to though!!

Look up Spoon Theory and mind your limits Also, is there a familiar chain store you can go into or other similar place you can use to ground yourself?

http://www.butyoudontlooksick.com/wpres ... on-theory/

Amazing!! Thanks I may try this but I doubt he'll respond well to it. I'll try though. He doesn't understand that I DONT WANT TO SOCIALISE!!
Its not that im afraid, its that I dont.want.to.socialise. I just dont think he may be able to grasp that. If you're deeply interwoven into the fabric of your community like he is and you are a sort of celebrated father figure it makes sense that you might believe that everyone needs and wants socialisation. For us its just too stressful and our own company is far far far more pleasant