How do you react to being teased?

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I know for me, especially as a kid, I absolutely hated when people would say mean things and when people would laugh at me, even for the smallest things. I know that sometimes they may have been just trying to be playful, but I always got extremely angry at others when they did this because I always thought they were being intentionally mean and attacking me. I hated being laughed at even if it had nothing to do with making fun of me, it always felt like an attack on me.

I still don't like being teased for anything, because to me it always seems like teasing is based off of something they believe to be true, and whether or not they are "just joking" doesn't change that fact. I see this in myself when I tease other people, and I sometimes seem to go too far with it, so I just try not to do it at all. I've never really understood the point of teasing, even in a supposedly friendly way, as it isn't really friendly to intentionally point out other peoples flaws just to laugh at them for it.

I can enjoy teasing when it is done as a form of harmless fun. It is when spite is intended I don't like it or if it is done knowing it is hurting the other person involved.

So it depends.

Personally I can sometimes find it funny when I am not good at something, again it depends. There is really no such thing as a flaw in the absolute sense...only traits, characters, skills and abilities that may or may not be useful to one degree or another at any given time in any given situation.

What is a negative in one situation can be bloody useful in another...and all shades of grey in between. Ergo there is no such thing as a flaw in an absolute sense. When you say flaws what you mean are things that people are sensitive about because they don't like that aspect of themselves and they don't like that aspect because it does not match up with some ideal of what they think they should be or desire to be that they have stuck in their head.

Its all meaningless at the end of the day, none of it will matter when you are dead. I can't see any point to getting in a flap about it...human folly

I walk away from it, and don't engage them.

I have PTSD from being teased, laughed at and told I am dumb all my life. The PTSD can cause me to uncontrollably lash out at people, and it makes me want to hurt badly anyone who does it me again, so I have to walk away, or else I am a danger.

You have teasing and you have bullies and I HATE bullies. You don't want to know how many fights I have gotten into defending myself, a gay boy at school, an overweight boy or people with different skin colors. There was no bullying when I was around, that's for sure.

Teasing can be worse then bullying. You always have those people that make jokes but use jokes to tell you their opinion. When you react badly they just tell you it was a harmless joke but they really meant it. It's a safe way to criticize someone. I hate that. You can't really do anything about it. If someone tells you that you are an ***hole you can react to it, I find that much easier. The backstabbing joking way is so unfair.

I've never understood why people use 'I was just kidding!' as a cop-out. I know you were kidding, and I don't like it.

lets just say i didn't get suspended for saying "stop that"

when i become too anxious, stressed or tense, i loose the ability to communicate, so i result to using violence. i will end up hitting, bitting, kicking and screaming at a person for what they have done, this can be anywhere between name calling or invading my space.

A little bit of a self-deprecating sense of humor can go a long way. Of course this does not always work. My 7th grade was a living hell for me and a long and meaningless nightmare of suffering for me. - Of course that was back in the dark ages - I'm 60 years old now and the world was a lot less enlightened then it is now about many things. I have also had vicious comments directed at me as an adult that were mean spirited in intention and did hurt!! -

BUT - SOMETIMES IF you can let people know in a humorous kind of way that you realize that you can come off as a bit odd and you are able to look at it lightly and see the humor in it - it can diffuse a lot of ill will from people who may not understand you.

For example one place I used to work at - I became aware that people saw me as a bit odd - but most were not nasty about - But some might joke about it occasionally - I decided to embrace it rather than fight it. When sitting around at the table in the cafeteria - whenever someone would say something like, "This place is driving me crazy," I would respond with a comment like, "I've been working here for two years and I'm normal." My response always got a laugh because it let people know that I'm aware that people think I'm a little strange. But I was comfortable with that. I knew myself and I had a sense of humor about it.

I also often make jokes about myself to diffuse an uncomfortable situation. It's good to know what you are and accept that but some people (most) just go too far.

It depends on what the teasing is. Sometimes someone will say something and I take it seriously or get confused and then they say 'I am just teasing' and it's a relief they were not serious. If you get a sense of humor about yourself, you can just laugh with them and make a joke about yourself. That will minimize the situation.

As a kid I hated it because I was being made fun of and being given a hard time. I would ignore it knowing if I hit them or anything, I will be the one in trouble and they will just think I am a mean person and more kids wouldn't like me and I would be a bad person. I wanted to please people and be liked. But the older I got, I started to get aggressive again after ignoring it for so long and I had to the be the one in trouble.

I just assume now all teasing is friendly. I mistook playful teasing as bullying in junior high so I was shoving them for it and I had to be the bad guy for it and those kids got away with it. So I went the opposite and just assume now it's all friendly.

as a little kid it didnt really phase me, i wasnt really connected with the world then. and in early years of school, i would sit the whole time in recess in time out and crying, and being called a cry baby, and then getting yelled at by the teacher because i would cry more and scream. that also happened in the autism school i was in for 1st grade. but there i wasnt constantly in time out. usually i was constantly in time out in public schools even private schools, due to the crying and screaming outbursts(yet they never even told the other kids to stop). i dont even know why the intial one started. other than i would forget to turn my homework in that i finished, and i would stuff the pink detention slips in my desk, - oh and i wandered around and went outside and "picked flowers" (i didnt understand the whole "school" thing yet. but i seem to think thats how the intial time outs were started over).
by middle school i had became almost immune to it, and in jr high new things arrived, and i was often in and out of temporary and longterm hospitals (where quite often i didnt have to "deal with" the stuff that would take place in school), then in highschool, i stuffed what all happened, and in 11th grade i started eating my lunch in the bathroom, until i was able to find a place in the library that i could eat, and then when i got booted out of there by the attendance officer lady, i either skipped lunch and stayed in the bathroom, or i would eat back in the bathroom again, i prolly could of ate in the special ed room, but i hadnt thought of that back then. and i still stuff it, and it ends up turning into depression once its "stuffed".

It depends on whom is doing the teasing and if it is mean or if it is out of love. It it is out of love from someone I love than I really like it. If it is mean or from someone whom I don't like or who does not like me than it is very hurtfull and that is extremely difficult for me to handle.