how are most of you guys be so calm?

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on the post were teela clark said that aspies were freaks I was about to tell that person to burn in H!@#, but most of everyone else was calm about the subject and tried to make the person change there mind, how on earth do you guys do that? Whenever someone says some thing that offends me, I usually burst out in anger, except if its a light offense. How do you guys do that? I fear this is one of the reasons that im not very social.

1. I don't get angry very easily.
2. I don't want to lower myself to that person's level.
3. I remind myself that getting angry is only going to make the situation worse. It can become a neverending cycle. Plus, it just doesn't feel good.

I also don't get angry very easily. Irritated or frustrated, maybe. Getting angry wears me out, stresses me, I don't like it.

Also when I am in analytical or robot mode I don't get angry. She is flipping out, that's her trip and her problem, not mine. What really bothered me was how illogical she got- saying that her children would be NORMAL....and that she herself is normal. Either she is normal and a troll who hates aspies or she is an aspie in denial. Nothing to take personally or get mad about.

I get angry sometimes. I got pissed off with that twat.

Scipo, language!

And as for why I stay calm: I live by the policy: I have the condition, They have the problem.

I couldn't see that TeelaClark situation as anything but hilarious. She is clearly a lot less intelligent than any of us, so I took pity and posted a sarcastic reply instead of an offended one. I was initially worried by the curing autistic children comment, but then realized that no one in their right mind would ever mate with her.

Besides that, I hate getting angry. I hear most NTs enjoy getting angry because it serves as an emotional release. But whenever I force myself to act angry in order to achieve something, I feel physically sick afterwards and regret doing it. For example, I had to angrily tell my roommate not to use my computer any longer, since I discovered he was only using it to download porn, but I hated doing it. I wasn't actually angry, I was just considering my possible consequences. It was weeks before I accepted that it was right to treat him like he should have been treated. Sometimes people get angry at me because they try to piss me off and always fail miserably.

Anyone else like that? I'm sure it's a big part of AS, but it seems like I take it to extremes.

Last edited by ghotistix on 03 May 2005, 1:20 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I think she just learned that an aspie forum would be quite fertile trolling ground. Despite the fact not many got angry, she still got lots of responses.

I over reacted. I just am passionate about my AS. I love it as it is part of my identity and it is one of the things that stops me from stabbing myself when I get really pissed off.

Aspies are famous for having a "long fuse". Our stress pattern is completely different from both the NT and Autistic patterns. We generally don't get seriously angry until a sufficient amount of stress has accumulated, and then we fly into a rage (or melt-down) and let it all out at once. Some other poor sucker could end up paying for Teela's post days from now....

Heh not in my case. I deestress by killing people........



Computerised people BTW, not real people

Actually some of us have a notoriously short fuse especially some like me that have emotional regulation issues and such.

I have an incredibly short fuse.

About the TeelaClarke thing, I just didn't really care that much. It wasn't a personal attack, so I didn't really feel offended.

I read into it and thought by giving
her a verbal talk down , then chip
at her emotional ice I could allow
her to thaw and her true self reveal
itself . This tactic seemed to work
and felt a angry response wouldn't
work. It amazed me later seeing
the viewing results(#500's) and
responses(#30+).

This served 2 purposes, one that
we all in our own way stick together
and rationalized the situation, and
allowed her to thaw this emotional
negativity ice.

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter

P.S...I do have a short fuse though!

I used to get angry at other people, and yell 'n stuff. Finally I realized that I don't know how to get angry (this was before i ever heard of AS).
So now, when I feel myself getting angry, I just remind myself that I don't know how. Believe it or not, it works for me.

I used the same method to quit smoking 8 years ago. Everytime I wanted a cigarette, I just reminded myself "You don't do that anymore." It worked, I didn't cheat once, and I have no desire to resume. (this only applies to tobacco )

But let not all of us be to hard on the poor girl. After all "Thunder only happens when it's raining"...
Even the biggest jerks have a reason and don't deserve to be roughed.
One needs to be as patient as possible, and even if one is exploding inside, one shouldn't express it in such a manner as to affect another's emotional condition.
I get angry, and can be very bitter when the occasion calls... but I try to be peacable about it.
But I, like some of you, have a very long fuse by about ten-foot fold.

I have a short fuse and am intollerent of people. Teelaclarke didn't offend me, but I was annoyed at the nature of the post.

most of the time I regret blowing up at people but most of the time on this site I don't really care.